Sunday, September 29, 2013

How To Decide?

I trust the decisions I make.
Life works for me, because I make good choices.
I always choose for the highest Good for All.
I know what I really want and I choose wisely and well.
(Remember we won’t believe 100% in the affirmation we choose, because we have limiting beliefs and faulty programs. The affirmation is designed to erase our blocks to listening within to our conscience, our inner guide. By doing affirmations we gradually clear away the blocks to hearing what is right and true and highest and best for all.)

Criticize or Praise?
Hate or Love?
Hurt or Heal?
Blame or Forgive?

How do you decide?
Or do you just go along with whatever you mind or mouth says?
Do you choose what you want to express or experience?
Are you willing to be responsible for your thoughts and your words?

If you are a victim in this world of choice, you will let choices be made for you.
If you are a servant of your family culture, you may well let others decide for you.
If you are a follower of the authorities in your life, you may let others lead your life decisions.
How you choose from an infinite number of possibilities is up to you.

No one knows better than you.
No one lives your life for you.
No one is master of your fate.
You are the captain of your ship.

If you knew what was right for you, would you choose on your own?
If you believed in what is true in your heart, would you make your own decision?
If you honored your own rhythm and walked your own path,  would your life be better?
If you trusted your own way and lived your own will, could you make the tough choices?

Many seem to be conforming to what they see around them and in the media.
Most seem to not want to make waves or be different from their peers.
Individuality is often ridiculed and bullied.
Accentuated attitudes of laughing at rudeness and crude behavior often get applauded.

What would it take to choose our dress, manners and attitude with self respect?
How can we model behaviors which exemplify the best in us?
Are we willing to stand out with our values, etiquette and responsible choices?
Can we be the ones who will lead those who need better examples of being kind and helpful?

When we decide to praise rather than criticize, we create more to appreciate.
When we choose to forgive instead of blaming, we encourage others to make better choices.
When we provide love and kindness rather than hate and prejudice, we offer safety and peace.
When we eliminate hurting ourselves and others with words and actions, we provide healing.

We can make a difference with the choices we make.
We can be the individuals who inspire and uplift those around us to choose more consciously.
We can stop and think before we make decisions to see what will be helpful and good.
We can envision and build the world we want to see by being the change that we can be.

It is not difficult to be responsible and respectful in our choices.
It feels freeing to make decisions that benefit everyone rather than just ourselves.
It is helpful, kind and adult behavior to stop and think before we speak.
It is beneficial to live our life as though everything matters….because it does!

Loving you with my thoughts, words and actions,
Betty Lue

Affirmations for Conscious Healing  
by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.
I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.
Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.
I am a Love giver.
The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.
Light, light, I want more light.
I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.
I love my life and it loves me.
I have what I want and share the best I have.
Life works for me.
I am the chooser, never a loser.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
I am clear, focused and committed.
I consciously communicate exactly what I want.
I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.
I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.
I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.
I give myself the very best and all are blessed.
I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.
I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.
My happiness is contagious.
I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.
Peace and love and joy heal us All.
My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real. 

Useful suggestions for applying  Affirmations
Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 
Work with no more than 3 affirmations at a time.
Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.
Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect.  
They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 
The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.
Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.
Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.
Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.
Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows:  
I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself. 
 Feel free to invent new ones.
 Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.
To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times.  
Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge.  
Continue working with these until they go flat.  
When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.