Monday, August 12, 2013

Our Greatest Needs: Respect, Responsibility and Cooperation

(Useful to clear the false beliefs and limiting habits of mind.) 
See suggestions below for effective utilization.

I easily forgive my misperceptions and see things differently.
I am joyfully responsible for my thoughts, words, actions, relationships and finances.
I live in harmony with all life, doing harm to none.
I now am respectful, responsible and cooperative with everyone, including myself.

Respect is seeing the truth beneath the surface.
Respect is honoring all life, all beings, all Good.
Respect is seeing things differently than our beliefs.
Respect is looking again more deeply to see the Good.

When we respect our children, they learn to be respectful.
When we respect ourselves, others learn to respect us and themselves.
When we listen and learn from young and old, we teach our children to be respectful.
When we teach and model respect at home, school and on media, society will learn to respect.

We can model saying “ please” and “thank you” and demonstrate basic values.
In families, schools and workplaces, we can stop the ignorant inconsiderate behavior.
Children need to be carefully taught to ignore negative behavior and praise what is positive.
When we appreciate what is Good, it increases. 

Responsibility is responding to everything with Love.
Response-ability is having wisdom and kindness to give.
Responsibility is forgiving all fearful and defensive reactions.
Responsibility is giving what we want to receive.

Time to turn off TV, internet, cell phones and listen to our family.
Time to stop interrupting, yelling, gossiping and turning off and tuning out.
Time to be quiet and listen to what children are saying and doing with their lives.
Our society, our kids, our neighbors are a reflection of what we have taught by example.

Co-operation is being willing and able to join with others.
Co-operation is committing to what is good for everyone.
Co-operation is choosing for the way that brings harmony.
Co-operation is trusting what you give is given to yourself.

If we want a better world for everyone, we need to create a better world for ourselves.
If we believe in peace and harmony, it is time to generate no threats or violence in our homes.
If others seem to resist and be irresponsible and non cooperative, we need to strengthen our relationships.
When someone matters to you because your respect them, you try to treat them with respect.

It is time we forgive our mistakes and choose again for a better life.
It is time we stop what depletes, disappoints, distracts us and choose for what fills, inspires and focuses us.
We each can choose a better way to live and love and give with respect, responsibility and cooperation.
It is our world, our life and our intention that creates the relationships we truly want.

Begin today in your own unique way to create the experiences you want to have with everyone.
You are making a difference.
You can make a difference in others’ lives.
You are the teacher and learner, the healer and counselor, creator of the life you have.

Blessings to you in remembering,
Betty Lue

Opportunities to awaken and remember:
Better Living Classes at Positive Living Center in Hidden Valley Lake.Wednesdays at 7PM.
Better Living Classes at Reunion Center in Pleasant Hill, CA, twice Monthly on Mondays at 7PM
A Living A course In Miracles,at Unity Center for Inspired Living in Brentwood, and in Hidden Valley Lake.
Sunday Services at Unity Center for Inspired Living in Brentwood, CA, 10 AM plus workshops monthly.
Retreats at Reunion Lake House and Hermitage, Hidden Valley Lake, CA ( individual and group)
My books: Relationships Reminders (Healing Reminders coming this summer and Family Reminders in the fall)
Reunion Ministry Program with application and 1-3 years facilitation training.
And much more at all three centers. Freely given and always loving. Betty Lue

I have created and facilitated many different opportunities for everyone.
Recognize your Authentic Self
Awaken to Spirit Within
Balance mind, body and Spirit
Actualize your inner potential
Live your Spiritual Vision.
I am available to you as coach and mentor, teacher and guide, counselor and advisor, helper and loving Presence.
Loving, always Loving, 
Betty Lue

My favorite way to do affirmations is to divide the lined page down the middle.  The affirmation is written on the left side and your mind chatter or contradictory thought is written on the right side.  Then cross off the negative.  Write the affirmation again on the left and listen to your mind chatter and write on the right.  Cross the mind chatter off.  Continue writing the affirmation 20 time and listen for the resistant thought after each one. 
See below my example and cross off everything that is in pink.  I would do it all by hand, so I could cross it off with my pen!!  20 times daily for 14 days or until there is no resistance.  Do no more than three different affirmations at a time.  Things may change dramatically, so be prepared to notice big difference.  Life works when we are willing to do the work.  Ask me for help if you have trouble finding the affirmations that are most effective for you. Always choose an affirmation that you resist, because it will help clear away what is blocking your Good.
They will always feel like a lie in the beginning and you may find great resistance to doing them!!

Affirmations for Conscious Healing  
by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.
I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.
Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.
I am a Love giver.
The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.
Light, light, I want more light.
I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.
I love my life and it loves me.
I have what I want and share the best I have.
Life works for me.
I am the chooser, never a loser.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
I am clear, focused and committed.
I consciously communicate exactly what I want.
I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.
I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.
I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.
I give myself the very best and all are blessed.
I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.
I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.
My happiness is contagious.
I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.
Peace and love and joy heal us All.
My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real. 

Useful suggestions for applying the technique of Autosuggestion to the Affirmations
Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 
Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.
 Work with one or more every day. Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect.  
They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 
The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.
Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.
Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.
Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.
Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows:  
I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself. 
 Feel free to invent new ones.
 Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.
To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times.  
Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge.  
Continue working with these until they go flat.  
When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.