Monday, July 22, 2013

Relationships Are For Healing

I cannot see what I think cannot be.
I choose to see what I believe can be for me.
My mind now automatically erases everything that is not wholly true and loving.
I erase all fear and doubt and live and teach what love is about.
I now choose to treat everyone with kindness and respect all the time.

Relationships are for learning.
Relationships are for healing.
Relationships are for creating.
Relationships are for growth.

Relationships show us what is working and what is not working.
Relationships give us clear feedback on what we want and don’t want.
Relationships are a computer print out of our thoughts, words and behavior.
Relationships represent exactly what we have asked for, chosen and created.

Relationships are a mirror of our inner self, thoughts and feelings, beliefs and history.
Relationships out picture what we have not erased from our past.
Relationships are projections of what we believe is possible and true, and deserve.
Relationships demonstrate where we have blocks to the awareness of Love.

Recommendations for Harmonious and Respectful Relationships
~Stay conscious and in control of your words and emotions. (Stop using drugs and alcohol.)
~Take impeccable care of yourself. (Get adequate rest and food and eliminate work stress.)
~Meet your own needs. Encourage independence. Show others how to meet their own needs.
~State your requests of others respectfully and concisely. Don’t expect others to guess!
~Be silent until you can speak respectfully. If necessary, write to each other.
~Unless you want to fight or argue, do not engage until both parties are calm.
~Give what you want to have.  Never treat anyone with less than you want for yourself.
~Stop expecting something different from others.  It is a setup for disappointment and frustration.
~Appreciate what you receive. Everyone is giving their best.
~Give more to have more. Recognize those who have less can only give what they know and have.

Most disharmony comes from guilt over not being able to give what the other wants to have.
Most guilty people withdraw and withhold, blame and resent, or try harder and make more mistakes.
Most arguments come from two people who want to be “right” and no one listening to find agreement.
Most disrespect comes from not trusting, respecting and loving ourselves.

Stop complaining, withholding, criticizing, nagging, pleading, resenting, regretting and controlling.
Start appreciating, contributing, valuing, requesting, being kind, forgiving, trusting and letting go.
Find a better and happier and healthier way to relate to everyone.
Healthy Relationships are respectful, responsive, co-operative and fulfilling.

My choice:
We are in a relationship which I value and want to keep at the highest level.
I commit give you my best and want only the best for you.
I share with you the Highest Truths I know.
I appreciate both of us, as we give our best in all circumstances.
I take full responsibility for the quality of our relationship.
I never quit on Love.

Loving you,  
Betty Lue

Relationship Perceptions

· Perception is a mirror, not a fact.
·   What we see in another is a projection of our history and our internal judgments.
· Therefore, we see what we want to see in the moment, what fits with our current ideas, beliefs, and attitudes.
· Relationships are an opportunity to become a spotless mirror.
· Relationships show us where we are stuck in our opinions and self-judgment.
· Healing our perceptions, clearing our relationships, loving everyone equally, and cleaning our mirror is the purpose of the world and physical experience.
· Present moment experiences reflect past similars. We recreate past patterns until we come to peace and clear our misperceptions.
· The major portion of all relationships with lovers, spouses, children, employers and friends is to clear the past.
· Awareness with no judgment is healing. Simply notice.
· We are responsible for our experience and receive what we have asked for exactly as we have asked.
· Everything works together for good.
· To consciously give ourselves and our relationships to Spirit is to allow the undoing to occur in an easy, natural way with trust in the outcome.
· To the degree we respect ourselves, we are respected by others.
· To the degree we abandon ourselves, we are abandoned by others.
· To the degree we listen to and honor ourselves, we are listened to and honored by others.
· Also, to the degree we love and trust ourselves, we can love and trust others.
· So, it behooves all of us to clean up our own relationship with ourselves—to let go of everything that blocks us from respecting, being with, listening to and honoring, loving and trusting ourselves. Indeed, this is the cure-all for relationships.
· The simple truth is that the outer reality is but a reflection of our inner kingdom.