Saturday, June 15, 2013

What You Believe Is How You Live

I choose what works for me.
What is best for me is best for others. 
I know what I want and I go for it.
I live true to my beliefs and values.

What you value is how you spend your time, energy and money.
When we are not living what we believe and value, we are conflicted.
When we are living in conflict with our true values and beliefs, our life is out of integrity.
When we are not living in integrity with our values and beliefs, life does not work!

What do you believe?
Do you believe there is an external God running your life and giving your good and bad experiences?
Do you believe that there is no God or Higher Power and life is just a series of accidental experiences?
Do you believe that you have control with what you believe and value and think and say and do?

What do you believe?
Perhaps what you believe is the major clue to what happens to you.
Perhaps when you believe that things happen because God or the Universe has ordained it, it will be so.
Perhaps when you believe that everything is just coincidence or accidental, your life will be that for you.
Perhaps when you believe that you beliefs, values, thoughts, words and deeds create, this is so for you.

How will you ever know unless you believe what someone else believes?
How can you find our what to believe unless you try out different ways of believing?
How can you tell what is true unless you find someone  or something you trust to believe in?
How can you really trust until you explore, experiment and determine what is “real” for you?

What do you value?
Do you spend your time, energy and money on what you value most?
Do you spend your mental and emotional and financial energy on what bothers you?
Where we spend our energy and focus determines what we value and increase in our lives.
When we spend our energy on what we don’t want, the Universe gets we want more.

Often people have learned as children to focus on not making mistakes or doing the wrong thing.
They don’t understand why they keep doing the wrong thing and making the same mistake.
What we value with our negative mind is just as strong as what is valued by our positive mind.
When we continue to worry, fear, judge, criticize, deny or resist, we are valuing these habits.

When we buy into what others believe even when untrue for us, it won’t work for us.
When we try out others’ beliefs which are false for us,  we are conflicted in our believing.
When we go along with the worldly beliefs or institutional beliefs, we may be out of integrity.
When we seek what is right and true for us, it resonates and we can live in 100% truth for us.

When we 1005 live (think, speak and act) our values and beliefs, we are 100% in integrity.
When we are conflicted in what we believe and value., energy is lacking and success is limited.
When we are exploring what we believe and value, our success will be intermittent.
Integrity yields strength, consistency, certainty, confidence, clarity, commitment and success.

Observe what works for you.
When you are true to yourself, life will work for you.
When you are true to others and false to yourself, life will not work well for you.
When you are upset with your life, return to what you believe and value!
Encouraging you to be true to you! 
Betty Lue

My favorite way to do affirmations is to divide the lined page down the middle.  The affirmation is written on the left side and your mind chatter or contradictory thought is written on the right side.  Then cross off the negative.  Write the affirmation again on the left and listen to your mind chatter and write on the right.  Cross the mind chatter off.  Continue writing the affirmation 20 time and listen for the resistant thought after each one. 
See below my example and cross off everything that is in pink.  I would do it all by hand, so I could cross it off with my pen!!  20 times daily for 14 days or until there is no resistance.  Do no more than three different affirmations at a time.  Things may change dramatically, so be prepared to notice big difference.  Life works when we are willing to do the work.  Ask me for help if you have trouble finding the affirmations that are most effective for you. Always choose an affirmation that you resist, because it will help clear away what is blocking your Good.
They will always feel like a lie in the beginning and you may find great resistance to doing them!!

I Betty Lue have plenty of everything I need.    No I don’t.
I betty Lue have plenty of everything I need.  This won’t work.
I betty Lue have plenty of everything I need. I don’t want to do this.
I Betty Lue have plenty fo everything I need. I am too tired.
I Betty Lue have plenty of everything I need.  This is a lie.

Affirmations for Conscious Healing  
by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.
I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.
Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.
I am a Love giver.
The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.
Light, light, I want more light.
I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.
I love my life and it loves me.
I have what I want and share the best I have.
Life works for me.
I am the chooser, never a loser.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
I am clear, focused and committed.
I consciously communicate exactly what I want.
I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.
I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.
I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.
I give myself the very best and all are blessed.
I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.
I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.
My happiness is contagious.
I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.
Peace and love and joy heal us All.
My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real. 

Useful suggestions for applying the technique of Autosuggestion to the Affirmations
Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 
Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.
 Work with one or more every day. Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect.  
They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 
The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.
Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.
Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.
Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.
Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows:  
I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself. 
 Feel free to invent new ones.
 Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.
To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times.  
Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge.  
Continue working with these until they go flat.  
When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.