Monday, June 03, 2013

“Remember to say “Good Bye”

I love you and release you to your Highest Good.
I am happy. I am free.  I am complete.
I forgive everyone and everything all the time, including myself.
I complete every relationship with respect, honor and appreciation.

“Remember to say “Good Bye”

School year ends and summer begins.  
Relationships end and new ones begin.
Jobs end and we look for new jobs.
Vacations end and we go back to work.

To begin something new with ease, we must complete the past.
To begin with an open mind and happy heart, we must end with gratitude.
Whatever you have begun takes our attention until we lay it to rest.
When we are complete, we can release it with an honorable closure.

Everything in this world is temporary.
When we are attached, endings hurt.
When we are complete, endings are blessed.
When we are grateful, we can easily step into next experience.

When we fail to complete what was, we are never quite confident with the future.
When we are critical of what just happened, we will carry the feelings with us.
When we feel guilt or regret, we may be haunted by memories and not free to choose again.
When we are hurting ourselves with doubts and fears, we may get stuck in fear amd doubt.

Honorable closure is the gift of completion.
Honorable closure is taking a big look at our past.
Honorable closure cleans up the mess of what happened.
Honorable closures gets us ready for what we choose next.

·     Stop and look at what you think and feel and know.
·     Write down your learning, your regrets, your challenges and your appreciation.
·     Take time to get very clear about what needs revealing and healing .
·     Give yourself a moment to apologize to yourself and others.
·     Be willing to write those thank you notes you don’t want to do.
·     Clarify in writing exactly what your goals are for next time.
·     Remember you are at the helm of your destiny, your successes and failures.
·     Do affirmations of love, trust and respect for yourself and your learning.
·     Forgive yourself and others of all the obstacles and resistance to be free.
·     Choose wisely and well for the Highest Good for all.
·     Commit to what works for you and gently release what gets you stuck.

Complete honorable closure for yourself and with others. 
Keep it simple, kind and respectful for all parties.
Good-bye comes from the kindly phrase: “God be with You”.
So Goodbye and God be with you until we meet again.

Loving you and you and you, now and always, 
Betty Lue

Honorable Closure        
How do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or friendship? 
How do you know you are really complete?
People may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier emotionally.   
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be with You”. 

When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.  
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories. 

Honorable closure acknowledges:
1)   the learning and growth received, 
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced, 
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings, 
4)   forgiveness and amends made. 

**Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience. 
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together. 
**Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.  
**And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.   

Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.   If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude.  
I am grateful I have learned…  
I am grateful I was challenged……
I am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..

Do your part when you part. 
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns. 

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  Begin now!

Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace. Do it Now!

Betty Lue  1983