Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Are You Willing to Learn to Be More Happy, More Loving and More Giving?

Our grandchildren are with us this week for our summer Grandparent’s Camp”. June 7-15.
One week each of the summer months, 3-5 grandchildren come to be with us for horseback, cratfs, lake swimming, learning new skills and enjoying nature, animals and our garden.  We all enjoy the time together with healthy home-cooked food, a movie each evening, lots of games, computer reading and math computer programs, writing their own books, etc.  The kids  this week are 8 yr. old twin sisters, Lila and Harper, and their brother Beckett who is 6 ½.  All three are high self esteem and high energy, very verbal and curious plus, they super unique in many ways.  We love and learn them.
(Today is their Mom’s birthday, so we sent her lots of homemade presents, three of their books with photos and cards.)

I am open and willing to be happy, helpful and healthy.
I love, respect and trust myself, the more I love, respect and trust others.
I know what I want and I go for it.
I take impeccable care of my own needs.

Are You Willing to Learn to Be More Happy, More Loving and More Giving?

This is key to a life that works.
·     Stop focusing on getting what you want.
·     Start being happy with yourself.
·      Give happiness and love to others.
·     Respect where others are. .
·     Teach by your good example.

Remember that consistent kindness and respect are the best teachers.
Give yourself the guidelines that you need to stay in alignment with your goals.
Remember to take impeccable care of you, so you can be at your best.
Forgive quickly any mistakes made by you or others, so you stay happy.

Everyone is learning how to have a happy life..
Each person has their own issues and places of needed development.
Children learn by watching, listening and feeling what adults do, think and say.
Our life experience is determined by those with whom we associate.

Everyone deserves to be happy.
Children deserve a happy childhood.
Happiness doesn’t cost money.
Happiness comes from feeling safe and loved.

You deserve to be happy.
You deserve to feel safe and loved.
Your happiness comes from not judging or criticizing or attacking others.
Your happiness comes from not allowing others to hurt you, physically or emotionally.

Choose to be happy yourself.
Choose to give happiness to others.
Choose to erase and forgive yourself for hurting others’ feeling or being hurt by others.
You can step away from unhappy people, situations or unhappy thinking.

You can make happiness your goal.
You can eliminate unhappy thoughts, words and behavior.
You can forgive yourself for taking on others’ unhappiness.
You can freely share happiness with every encounter.

Yes, when adults or kids are tired or hungry, they may get grouchy.
Yes, when others are bothering us when we want to be left alone, we may be irritated.
Yes, when we have pain or problems, fears or sorrow, we may easily cry or get angry.
Yes, when we feel no one is listening and respecting our needs, we may express strong feelings.

All it takes is one person who takes the time to tune in, listen and care, to clear the upset.
We can be conscious enough to take the time with ourselves to clarify and honor our own needs.
We can be the one who stops and really respects the needs of another, to clear their upset.
We can love each other enough to take a few minutes to really hear, feel and know what is needed.

Let us all learn to look below the surface and respond with Love instead of reacting with fear.
Loving you and me and all of us as one,
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.