Thursday, April 18, 2013

Kids Are Honest

Be aware of what and how you are teaching!
(Adults are honest too when they feel safe and not judged or afraid of argument or ridicule.)

When we listen, kids tell their truth.
When we accept, kids remember what is true for them.
When we ate non judgmental, kids share what is in their hearts.
When we are present, kids will disclose their sweet love.

When we teach, kids will listen.
When we preach, kids believe we know.
When we criticize, kids feel wrong.
When we punish, kids learn to fear.

We all have a child inside.
When we are treated with Love, we respond with Love.
When we are treated with anger, we react with Fear.
The way others think and speak and act directly effects our responses and reactions.

When we interact with those who make assumptions, we feel misunderstood.
When we explain ourselves and are not believed, we feel doubted.
When we try to express our selves and are not heard, we feel discounted.
When we are doing our best and it is not good enough, we feel discouraged.

Being honest is easy when we know our own truth.
Being honest is difficult when we are doubted, discounted and disbelieved.
Being listened to and heard, being accepted and appreciated, makes it easy to share our truth.
Being loved as we are, with mistakes and all, is key to feeling safe and good enough.

To love everyone, large or small, old or young, good or “bad” is the key to loving yourself.
To be truly helpful in all relationships, we must not discount, discourage or disbelieve.
To be really effective in our relating, we must listen first and really hear what is being shared.
To respond always and only with Love is the gift of Unconditional Love.

Children learn to love from how they are treated.
Adults have learned how to Love from how they have been loved.
When we have been “loved” with criticism, withheld love, punishment, violent words or actions, we will tend to love the same way.
When we have been inappropriately nurtured and loved, we will not know any better ways.

We must forgive all unloving acts, so that we can all seek and find better ways.
We must treat ourselves and others with gentleness, kindness, compassion and forgiveness.
We must relinquish all attack and find helpful and healing ways to relate.
We must understand when we know better, we will do better.

Love heals and reveals what needs to be healed.
Love softens and opens the heart/mind to feeling safe to Love.
Love dissolves the fear of being misunderstood, acused and punished.
Love bring safety and peace, security and comfort to those who are wounded.

It is time to learn to Love, no matter what.

Always reminding myself and all to remember Love.
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a friendly place in which to live.