Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Judgments Stick

What you see in another is also in you or you could not see it.    
We are all in this together, you and I.
How you respond with Love or react with fear determines your healing or condemnation.
What we see is a quality to be forgiven or erased with Love or to be appreciated and encouraged.

What you perceive in others, you strengthen in yourself.
What you give attention to in your friends or family will be increase by your focus.
We feed and increase what we talk about, judge, condemn, punish.
We feed and encourage what we appreciate, praise, enjoy and celebrate.

We grow what we give attention to.
We strengthen what we perceive.
We increase what we feed with our thoughts, words and behavior.
We are creating and growing the garden of humanity in which we live.

When we judge, criticize, punish and blame, we actually perpetuate the behavior.
When we try to fix, change, avoid and make wrong, we are actually emphasizing that experience.
Weeds, mistakes, ignorance, illness, prejudices, are continually reinforced with our focused attention.
To extinguish and eliminate, we must fill the space, with gratitude, appreciation and positive attention.

Guilt does not eliminate the error.
Guilt is held in the body/mind.
Guilt will either create repeated behavior, revenge or withdrawal.
Guilt is an erroneous deterrent or method of correction.

Seek out the good you want to encourage.
Look for behaviors you wish to feel.
Create the garden of goodness with honoring the Good.
Live with full positive attention and appreciation.

All people of all ages and backgrounds are benefitted with positive attention.
Everyone is encouraged with a smile, a hug, a thank you, a note of thanks.
Allow yourself to seek and find all the good in you and in others.
Stop the insanity of negativity and grow the good in everyone.

The pain and shame of negative feedback lasts long.
The joy and gratitude for positive feedback may be obliterated by one criticism.
Choose your words kindly and wisely so they increase what you really want.
Give yourself and others the best you have in all your interaction.

Remember your attention is strengthening the behavior you see in yourself and others.
So choose to acknowledge only the Good, the whole and the Loving and forgive the rest.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue 

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

1.       The essence of our being is love.
2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.
3.       Giving and receiving are the same.
4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.
5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.
6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.
7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.
9.       We are students and teachers to each other.
10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.
11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.
12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.
Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.
Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.