Monday, October 08, 2012

When Will We Learn

Do you know how to be good to you?
Do you know how to take good care of you?
Do you know how to be happy?
Do you know how to love you?

When we are not good to ourselves, we tend to expect others to do it for us.
When we do not appreciate ourselves, we often want others to be appreciative.
When we cannot make ourselves happy, we expect others to make us happy.
When we do not love ourselves, we usually seek someone to love us.

The irony is where we are not, do not, cannot and will not, others will follow suit.
We are teaching those around us how we want to be treated by how we treat ourselves.
It is not until we change our ways, that others respond according to our example.
It is when we are happy and loving, good and appreciative, that others learn from us.

Start with your daily routine and self care.
·     Nurture and nourish your mind, body and Spirit.
·     Get enough rest and relaxation  (Usually 7-8 hrs. daily).
·     Eat what really feeds your body. (Healthy food that give life energy.)
·     Read, watch and listen to what gives your good information, ideas and inspiration.
·     Take time to fill yourself with the beauty, goodness and Love in your world.

When you find yourself making excuses, look at your priorities.
Do you spend time on computer or TV instead of sleeping?
Do you eat unhealthy snacks while preparing healthy food for your family?
Do you spend money on distractions rather than on paying for what you value?

Do your comfort yourself with soothing and inspiring stories and activities?
Do you talk about people and events with appreciation and love?
Do you take time for quiet walks or moments of prayer?
Do you contribute to others welfare with gratitude and self appreciation?

When you scare yourself with worry or fears, you deplete your energy.
When you neglect yourself and your needs, you demean yourself.
When you focus on what you don’t have, rather than what you have, you depress yourself.
When you criticize and feel guilty and angry, you attack yourself.

If you see you have needs and wants that are not fulfilled, it is your job to fill them.
If you see you need to eat and rest, it is your work to give yourself rest and nourishment.
If you see you need to spend time, money and energy on what is beneficial to you, do it.
If you see you are denying yourself anything and blaming it on others, stop and be responsible.

So often we are following in the pattern of those who sacrificed and martyred themselves.
We may be believing that the most loving people go last and take the least.
We may think if we are needy enough, someone will come and fill us.
We may believe that self denial and self pity are the plight of those who are good.

If the way you are living is not good enough for your children, give them a good example.
If how you treat yourself is not how you want others to treat themselves, do what is best.
If you have noticed that those around you are needy and depleted, show them a better way.
If you are complaining about what others are not doing for you, give more to yourself .

Love you first.  I Am.
Betty Lue

The more I love, trust and appreciate myself, the more I love, trust and appreciate others.
The more I love, trust and appreciate myself, the more others love, trust and appreciate me.
The more I love, trust and appreciate myself, the more others love, trust and appreciate themselves.
And so it goes, the more I love myself fully and freely, the more the world learns how to love itself well.

You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life

If you would grow to be your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is tough as war
Yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies
But we open fully only to warmth & light
And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance
Dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storms are still

So accept, respect,
Attend your sensitivity

A flower
Cannot be opened
With a hammer