Friday, September 21, 2012

Happy Healthy Relationships!

See my latest book Relationship Reminders (see menu bar for info). 
Now available on and Balboa Press.

Do you know how to be content in all your relationships?
Do you know how to stay healthy in your relationships? 
Do you know what it means to be supported in being your best?
Do you understand how to support another in being their best?

Remember this: 
You are totally responsible for the quality of your relationships.
You expect and encourage the kind of relationship you want to have.
If you want an argumentative relationship, you can create one.
If you want an easy relationship you can have one.
If you want a dependent relationship, you can have one.
If you want a dishonest relationship you can have one.
If you want a parent-child relationship, you can create one.

Our relationships give us opportunities to learn, grow, heal and create.
We have what we need to learn from.
We have what we want to grow from.
We have what shows us what we need to heal.

Where you are needy, you create dependent relationships.
When you are wounded, you create healing relationships.
When you are picky, you create critical relationships.
When you are inspiring, you create inspirational relationship.

It is up to the most conscious and conscientious one to create the quality of the relationship.
(If you are reading this reminder, the most conscious one is you!)
When you take the time to list the ideal qualities in your relationship, you will ask your partner for the same.
When you are clear about what you want, you will model your ideal and teach the other with respect.
When you are clear about their wants, you will respect their ideal and learn to give the same with respect.

Relationships stir up and expose all both partners unhealed stuff, past wounds and misunderstanding.
Relationships work best when each person is totally responsible for healing and correcting themselves.
Relationships provide the safety for the thoughts, feelings, behaviors and imprinting to be revealed.
Relationships based on trust and freedom rather than fear and restriction provide the easiest healing.

Healthy relationships benefit all parties.
Happy relationships make decisions where both win. (no one loses)
Healthy relationships support the realization of each persons potential.
Happy relationships share equally in providing the opportunities for learning, enjoying, contribution and fun.

The best relationships are inspiring and respectful
The best relationships are healing and helpful..
The best relationships are sharing and supporting.
The best relationships are built on honesty and trust.
You can heal and transform any relationship. 
You can bring every relationship to completion.
You can end every relationship with honorable closure.
You can lift any relationship to the best each party wants it to be.

Loving you, loving me, loving you, loving all.
Betty Lue
¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.

The freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.

The trust that there is a constant flow of love, 
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems, 
we believe in and support each other’s right 
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity, 
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love

I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.

Betty Lue 1978