Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Do No Harm

If you want to be happy, do no harm.
If you want to have success, do no harm.
If you want a good relationship, do no harm.
If you want to raise good kids, do no harm.

If you want to feel safe, do no harm.
If you want to be confident, do no harm.
If you want to be valued, do no harm.
If you want to be loved, do no harm.

Hurting anyone or anything, including yourself creates the fear of being harmed.
What we do comes back to us, either actually or in our psyches.
When we hurt another in anyway, we fear being hurt by someone, somewhere, sometime.
When we hurt, scare, demean, reject or abandon the ones we love, we are harming them.

Violence begets violence.
When we feel fear, we may become violent.
When we are violent with those who are violent, the violence escalates.
When fear and violence escalate, we have wars where innocent people are harmed.

We can end war.
We can create peace.
We can end violence.
We can return to kindness and respect.

Respect others boundaries and bodies.
Respect others property and privacy.
Respect others ideas and individuality.
Respect others value and values.

Respect your own boundaries.
Respect your own body.
Respect your home and car and belongings.
Respect your neighborhood and world.

Respect everyone’s right to life, liberty and happiness.
Respect people’s beliefs and life work, principles and ideals.
Respect the choice to have or not have, to do or not do, to be or quit on being.
Respect without needing to judge or critique, question or negate, hurt or reject .

It is time for us to grow up and mature.
It is time for us to manage our own lives, and stop minding other’s business.
It is time to make the best choices for ourselves without needing other’s permission or approval.
It is time to be wholly responsible for what we create for ourselves.

Do no harm with your thoughts.  May they bring blessings.
Do no harm with your words. May they be encouraging.
Do no harm with your actions.  May they be of service.
Attend to your thoughts, words and deeds, for they reach and teach everyone everywhere.

Be gentle, respectful and inspiring with your thoughts, words and interactions,
Loving you, Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships ( Constructive choices)

Join with Love and Respect-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honest with compassion and kindness- Communicate your highest intention.

Equality in Realizing the Good in All-Each giving the best they know in each moment.

Commit to Healing and Wholeness- Agree to what is highest and best for both. 

Be Responsible without Guilt or Blame- Respond to everything with forgiveness and peace. 
Listen with open-mindedness. Be willing to let go and choose again for Love. 

Blocks to Healthy Relationships (Clear all destructive patterns.)
1) Nagging and Criticism ( Use constructive requests and be specific.)
2) Defensiveness (Listen and make no excuses.)
3 Contempt with Name-Calling, Belittling and Shaming ( No using guilt or blame.)
4) Stone-Walling, Ignoring and silent treatment  ( Talk or write when calm.)
5) Belligerence, Threatening, Demanding ( Forgive yourself for using power to get your way.)