Sunday, July 22, 2012

You Are Perfect Just the Way You Are

Trying to change and rearrange is just the symptom of “not enough”.  
When we judge that we are not OK, we try to fix or hide or feel guilt inside.
And when we judge with blame and guilt, we fill ourselves with shame.
And where has the Love disappeared, behind the clouds of illusion?

Under all attempts to make things right, we get more afraid we will be wrong.
We find ourselves seeking to fix the blame on someone or something else.
The further we get from simply forgiving, we more lost we are in confusion and pain.
It is in letting go, releasing, undoing and erasing what we judge that opens us to love again.

Underneath all the masks, excuses, justifications and trying to be something else, You Are You.
You are the perfect being for your own unique and Holy assignment.
You are in the right place at the right time doing the right thing for the right reasons.
Your Higher Self, Creator, Source, God, (whatever you call it), has a plan for you.

We can believe there is something to achieve or fix.
We can think we have failed or sinned or fallen short.
We can imagine that we are not enough and can never be.
We can give up, surrender, quit and be depressed.
We can forgive it all.
Erase and undo what is not true.
We can stop complaining and rearranging.
We can let it be and trust the Good that already is.
Yes, it helps to stop judging, condemning, damning and blaming.
We can choose to let go of our attachments and see what is left.
We can refuse to make assumptions about anyone or anything.
We can stop pretending we know it all or anything.

Don’t worry.  Just be happy.
What happens if you choose to really simply be happy and free?
What happens if you are grateful and enjoy the play of life as it unfolds?
What happens if you suspend your imagining disaster, drama and degradation?

What kills relationships with ourselves and others is everything that is made up, because we think we know what is right and true and good for you and for me.
When we judge and criticize, condemn and damn, blame and hate, we simply recreate more of the same.
Most have not recognized that making others feel guilty and wrong condemns them to do it again.
Only when we see and bless, love and affirm, join and share, do we dare to expose the perfection that is.

The blessings already are.
Perfection already is.
Love begets love.
The Creator created us creative.

Let’s just be happy and we will create happiness all around us.
Here we go, letting our perfection show.
Loving us as the One We Really Are.
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships ( Constructive choices)
Joining with Love and Respect-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honest with compassion and kindness- Communicate your highest intention.

Equality in Realizing the Good in All-Each giving the best they know in each moment.

Commitment to Healing and Wholeness- Agree to what is highest and best for both. 

Responsibility- Responding to everything with forgiveness and peace. 
Listening without guilt or blame. Being willing to let go and choose again for Love. 
Blocks to Healthy Relationships (Clear all destructive patterns.)
1) Nagging and Criticism ( Use constructive requests and be specific.)
2) Defensiveness (Listen and make no excuses.)
3 Contempt with Name-Calling, Belittling and Shaming ( No using guilt or blame.)
4) Stone-Walling, Ignoring and silent treatment  ( Talk or write when calm.)
5) Belligerence, Threatening, Demanding ( Forgive yourself for using power to get your way.)