You need to be heard.
You need to be respected.
You need to be valued.
You need to know we are safe, secure and loved.
What do your children need?
They need to be heard, respected, valued and feel safe in your love.
What does your partner need?
They need to be heard, respected, valued and feel safe in your love.
In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, we all seem to need the same things in developmental sequence.
~Safety and survival needs come first.
~Next are safety and security needs financially and within our home, job and relationships.
~Social needs are to have friends, family and people with whom we belong and feel valued.
~Our self esteem needs are met with achievement, approval, accomplishments and feeling useful.
~Actualization needs are met as we seek self awareness, personal growth and fulfilling our potential.
We cannot fill for others what we lack within ourselves.
To begin within is essential to fully know how to serve the needs of others.
We tend to deny or inadequately care for others in areas where we are in self denial.
Therefore, we need to begin within to hear, respect, value and keep ourselves safe, secure and loved.
Where there is fear, there is a need for reassurance.
Where there is anger, there is a need for being heard.
Where there is hurt, there is a need for comfort.
Where there are demands, there is a need for trust.
Where there is sorrow, there is a need for joy.
Where there is helplessness, there is a need for encouragement.
Where there is depression, there is a need for meaningful activity.
Where there is procrastination, there is a need for motivation.
Where there is resistance, there is a need for encouragement.
Where there is defiance, there is a need for freedom of choice.
Where there is self pity, there is a need to take action.
Where there is isolation, there is a need for friendship.
Our Needs are obvious when we are willing to stop, listen and respond with Love.
When we react with judgment and fear, real needs may be withheld.
When we listen with compassion and acceptance, we can join in finding effective responses.
When we feel heard, respected and valued, we know we are safe, secure and loved.
Give yourself what you need.
Journal your feelings and thoughts and listen to yourself with respect and love.
Honor your uniqueness without question or comparison.
No need to explain, justify or prove what you really need to be happy and whole.
Give yourself to Love and Love will give to you.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to love, trust and be ourselves.
What we give to ourselves is an inspiration for others.
To listen and respond with love to ourselves and others brings peace, happiness and fulfillment.
Loving us all as we learn to really love, listen and learn,
Betty Lue
Physiological Needs
<http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/maslows-needs-hierarchy_2.htm> These include the most basic needs that are vital to survival, such as the need for water, air, food, and sleep. Maslow believed that these needs are the most basic and instinctive needs in the hierarchy because all needs become secondary until these physiological needs are met.
Security Needs
<http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/maslows-needs-hierarchy_3.htm> These include needs for safety and security. Security needs are important for survival, but they are not as demanding as the physiological needs. Examples of security needs include a desire for steady employment, health insurance, safe neighborhoods, and shelter from the environment.
Social Needs
<http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/maslows-needs-hierarchy_4.htm> These include needs for belonging, love, and affection. Maslow considered these needs to be less basic than physiological and security needs. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments, and families help fulfill this need for companionship and acceptance, as does involvement in social, community, or religious groups.
Esteem Needs
<http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/maslows-needs-hierarchy_5.htm> After the first three needs have been satisfied, esteem needs becomes increasingly important. These include the need for things that reflect on self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition, and accomplishment.
Self-actualizing Needs <http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/maslows-needs-hierarchy_6.htm> This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing <http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/tp/self-actualized-characteristic.htm> people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others, and interested fulfilling their potential.