Those who are willing to love, make no demands.
We are either giving love or calling for love.
When we are in Love, we simply share the Love we are.
When we are calling for Love, we act needy, demanding and unloving.
You cannot see the need, when you are blinded by criticism and complaining.
You cannot know the need, when you are your mind is closed with fear and doubt.
You cannot recognize the need, when riddled with guilt, embarrassment and shame.
You cannot respond to the need, when caught in your own neediness and self denial.
Are you afraid to love?
Do you fear dependency or losing your own identity?
Are you lost in the confusion of specialness, both the love and the hate?
Can you relate to loving all, even as you are loved, but the Source of all Love within?
This is the place to begin.
When you know you are always loved, no matter what, perhaps you can love yourself that way too!
When you know there is no harm, no foul, perhaps, you will clear the fouls against you.
When you know it’s all a game we play, We will wake up to play only Love everyday.
Recently I played the game of needing Love, and no one seemed to see it all just a game of calling Love.
When the Loving ones need Love, how do you respond?
Simply easily and naturally Love them, one and all, whether needing Love or responding to the Love call.
There is no foul ball, except when we hit is over their heads or perhaps, it just doesn’t get caught.
Are you willing to choose to always respond with Love?
Are you willing to give to weak and strong, leader and follower, rich and poor, all the same?
All are in this grand love game, all here to win and never lose, catch the ball and rejoice.
Love is real and lasting, true and good, so why not give it all?
Special “love” comes and goes, with judgment at its source.
If you are “good enough” for me, then I wonder if I Am “good for you”.
Funny thought since all are the same, for me and you are one.
Nothing to win and nothing to lose. In love we have it all.
Don’t you love a game to play will everyone will always win.
You see, when we really LOVE we know LOVE has no end.
You know I can never stop loving You, because then I lose myself.
When we remember we are Love, there is no fear or doubt or end.
Loving always in all ways,
Betty Lue
You will love this one from Robert which might help you understand, there is only the healing choice:
Respond with Love, no matter what the call.
The 5 Languages of Fear
or
The 5 Calls for Love
An intuitive look at some possible explanations for unacceptable behavior.
According to A Course in Miracles, everything is either a gift of love or a call for love. The 5 Languages of Love (Dr. Gary Chapman) teach us more about how to effectively give and receive the gifts of love, but what about responding to the calls for love? The answer is always to “give love”, but that is only possible after we have stopped reacting to the call as a personal attack. The first step is awareness.
Awareness with love is healing.
When people are in fear or pain (and needing love), they are not always sensitive, aware, articulate, considerate or even caring. They will either see you as the cause of their current dilemma or just a handy (loving) person they can strike out at so they won’t be alone in their misery. They will either deprive you of what they know you value most or what they, themselves, value most.
Here are 5 possible disguises of the call for love.
1. The Put-Down—This includes complaining, anger, blame, guilt, insults, destructive words. If Words of Affirmation are a primary love language for you, hearing someone else’s pain directed at you can be especially hurtful.
2. The Cold Shoulder—This includes being pre-occupied, too busy, multi-tasking, distracted, walking away, ignoring, threatening to leave or end the relationship, shutting you out. If Quality Time is a primary love language for you, being left alone or abandoned can be devastating.
3. The Take-Away—This includes taking or breaking things, stealing, constantly saying “We can’t afford it”, not giving or sharing, being selfish. If Receiving Gifts is a primary love language for you, being deprived will be hurtful way out of proportion to the value of the actual gift itself.
4. The Complication—This includes forgetting to do things, being too busy to help out, refusing to help out, being destructive, making messes, causing problems, adding complications and making more work. If Acts of Service are a primary love language for you, the burden of having to do more or do it all yourself leaves you feeling hurt and resentful.
5. The Hurt—This includes hitting, hurting, outside affairs and cheating, withholding/denying touch and affection, and all acts of physical violence. If Physical Touch is a primary love language for you, either destructive touching or touch deprivation can cause you to emotionally wither and want to withdraw from the world.
Keys to responding with love:
1. Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. It’s about them. If you take it personally, they may think it actually is about you and fail to (eventually) take responsibility for their condition.
2. Take care of yourself. You may need to actually remove yourself from the situation in order to stop getting hurt and to get clear. If you let them hurt you, you create either conscious or unconscious guilt on their part, which will cause them to either attack more vigorously or withdraw completely.
3. Listen within for guidance. Once you can bring yourself to peace and neutrality, listen to your heart about how to respond. This is clearly a call for love. What does the other person actually need or want? What will be the most helpful and the most easily received by them. Sometimes love and forgiveness is best expressed in person and sometimes it is more effective from a distance. Do you need to speak, write, think, pray, act?
4. Do what you hear and trust it is good. Get on with your life and keep loving yourself so you can continue to love others.
Robert Waldon, Feb. 2012