Monday, December 13, 2010

Natural Selection

Why do we try to change what is?
Why do we try to fix what we dislike?
Why do we not simply step away from what is toxic?
Why do we make wrong what is being expressed naturally?

If a creature is poisonous to humans, why not stay away?
If a food is unhealthy or produces an allergic reaction, how about not eating them?
If driving with distractions causes scary situations, why not drive with focused attention?
If living in unhealthy relationships with arguing and threats, why not step away?

It seems contrary to what is natural to continue doing what is hurtful or threatening to us.
It seems crazy to continually try to change what is, rather than simply choosing what works.
It seems like we spend so much energy judging, analyzing, criticizing and fixing, when we could simply forgive our choice and choose again for something that works for us.

Life is choice.
Some choices are mistaken.
Some choices are perfect.
Some choices are fun, safe and easy.

People seem to try to change and rearrange what is, rather than simply accepting what is.
When we see things as they are, we can easily choose how to relate to it.
To love ourselves is to make choices that are healthy for us.
To respect ourselves is to step away from anything toxic or hurtful to us.
To trust ourselves is to stop doing what we know is not good for us.

To respond with love is to let it be.
To respond with love is to allow life to unfold.
To respond with love is trust in the natural learning process.
To respond with love is to choose what is best for all concerned.

Guilt is ineffective.
When we feel guilt, we forgive ourselves and choose again.
When we use guilt to control or manipulate the behavior of another, we are reacting with fear.
When we stop allowing anyone or anything to control our choices, we easily choose a better way.

When we love ourselves, we are wise enough to step away from circumstances that are toxic.
When we love ourselves, we trust enough to let go of unhealthy or hurtful relationships.
When we love ourselves, we stop allowing others to control or manipulate our choices.
When we love ourselves, we pay attention and choose for what is truly good for all concerned.

Bless us all for being willing to choose wisely and with respect, trust and love.
Betty Lue