Wednesday, April 28, 2010

How Do You Respond?

When you experience a negative communication….
How do you respond?
When you feel sick or tired or upset……
How do you respond?
When you are confused, conflicted and lost….
How do you respond?
When you notice incompletion, incompetence and ignorance…..
How do you respond?

you willing to be responsible?
Are you able to be responsible?
Are you able to respond with Love?
Or do you react with lack of Love and respect?

How we respond to an experience is more important than what caused the experience.
How we respond determines the outcome.
How we respond sets the tone for the next encounter.
How we respond either heals or gets us stuck in a negative pattern.
How we respond creates the canvas on which we paint our future experiences.
How we respond gives freedom and trust, healing and growth, to all concerned.

The habitual reaction of problem solvers, therapists, coaches and helpers is usually to understand WHY.
We are often coached by parents and others to analyze why and how did this happen to avoid a repeat.
When we focus on the happening or the experience, we tend to recreate it again and yet again.
When we shift our focus to our response, we improve our resilience and competency in life situations.

Some teach, “Speak up and express your feelings.”
Some say, “Forgive and love again.”
Some say, “Stand up for your rights.”
Some say, “You are a victim and must accept whatever comes.”

There are no “right” ways to respond to the variety of experiences we have.
There is a need to find a way that yields inner peace, completion, honorable closure and true happiness.
There is a benefit by listening within to find the respond where no one loses or feels wrong or shamed.
There is a potential for the blessing of true and lasting healing and growth for all concerned.

How we respond is totally up to us.
How we respond is the gift of freedom to explore and the trust in ourselves to choose.
How we respond is true power for making change in our lives instantly.
How we respond comes from a willingness to do the work to change our perception and our response.

To respond with peace and neutrality, non judgment and a desire to bring peace, we offer healing.
To respond with respect and gratitude opens the door for all to benefit and see things differently.
To respond with acceptance and understanding of differences invites authentic open communication.
To respond with compassion and patience gives us time to see and accept the others involved.
To respond with direction and focus bring clarity and vision.
To respond with passion and caring offers opportunity for teamwork and unity.
To respond with concern and involvement gives relief from separation and competition.
To respond with spiritual connection and guidance opens the way for fulfillment and success.

We are able.
We can be willing.
We are the peacemakers.
We can be powerful healers.

Responding from the heart and Mind that seeks only Good for All,
Betty Lue

Everyone’s ego and personality is like a child who is capable of healing, learning and finding true and lasting happiness and inner peace.

If Children Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.