Monday, March 01, 2010


This evening we leave for 10 days in Australia.
We will focus on natural beauty, wildlife and the aboriginal culture.
We will have no computer, but will receive email on Robert’s phone.
We will be able to text back short replies.
We will return late on Friday March 12.
If emergency, please email or text Robert or myself.
My emails will be forwarded to his phone.

It is always preferable to find solutions where no one loses.
Win/win solutions seem to be rare.
Seeking the way where everyone is content and at peace is the goal.
With peace a deeper understanding comes.

How do you negotiate when you don’t want to compromise?
How can you find a way so that everyone is happy?
How do you listen for the solution within when everyone has their own opinion?
How do you give up what seems best for you and not best for others?

Compromise is often a lose/lose solution where both parties give up something.
What is best for everyone is necessary to create a beneficial outcome for all parties.
Give the process the time and attention it needs to resolve conflicts and create what works.
Give full attention to listening to the needs of all parties and seeking solutions which meet those needs.
Listen to assess needs of all.
Set the stage for brainstorming solutions.
Brainstorm without judging possible solutions. (Be outrageous and create 30 + solutions)
Evaluate the possible solutions listening for anything that might work.
Choose the 2-3 solutions OK’s by the participants.
Put together an implementation plan.
Revaluate the effectiveness with 30-60 days.
Begin again if needed.

Start by inquiring what is needed by each person involved.
Needs assessments are the most important step in an effective problem solving.
When the individual’s needs are met, it is far easier to co-create acceptable solutions.
Problems or glitches may occur if there are values differences or some parties are unwilling or unable to acknowledge their true needs.
Occasionally individuals simply play to win.
The misunderstanding is that if one loses, all lose.

To negotiate require openness, willingness, appreciation of all points of view.
Negotiation often includes a neutral party or facilitator to ensure the equality of outcome.
It may be up to the most conscious one to let go and support the others in achieving their goals.
Or sometimes it is clear for whom the outcome is most important in which case it is best to let go.

The process of finding that is highest and best for all concerned invites us to be at our best.
We must be conscious, clear, respectful, effective in listening and communicating.
Creating win/win solutions is key to happiness and harmony in our world.
All of us can participate in our work place and home, as well as in politics and finance.

Loving us all into negotiating for the highest Good,
Betty Lue