Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Do You Really Love?

Love or fear?
Do you love being with someone or fear being alone?
Do you love being provided for or fear being on your own?
Do you love have someone to talk with or fear being separate?

Respect or fear?
Do you respect their values or fear the repercussions of having your own?
Do you respect their life choices or fear getting in trouble with them?
Do you truly respect them or fear what will happen if you step away?

Do you want or need?
Do you want to be together or need to be together because you are afraid?
Do you want to be in this relationship or need to be there because you have no place to go?
Do you want to be in love or need to be dependent on being loved by another?

Freedom or Restriction?
Are you both free to choose again each day or are you stuck in a choice that no longer works?
Are you free to speak your own mind or are you commanded to agree with the other?
Are you free to live true to your values or stuck living up to the other’s expectations and demands?

Trust or Doubt?
Are you trusted and trusting of one another or doubted and questioned about your choices?
Are you trusted to do what is best for you or accused of being foolish, wrong, hurtful to the other?
Are you trusting that you both have one another’s best interests at heart or suspected of sabotaging?
Where there is Love, there is trust.
When there is Love, there if freedom.
When we Love with conditions, we demand and expect.
When we Love as possession, we need and threaten.

When we Love conditionally, our Love is closed, needy, addictive, demanding and possessive.
When we Love without condition, our Love is freeing, trusting, healing and growthful.
When we Love as the world teaches, our love is attached, dependent and threatening.
When we Love as God (Spirit) loves, our Love is open, inspiring, expansive and forgiving.

Love in the human condition is often emotional, passionate, filling the void within.
Love, in the Highest Sense, is choice, unchanging, enhancing to the wholeness within.

Most have been taught to complete themselves with the Love of another to make them whole.
They become dependent on the other’s approval, provision, protection and presence to feel OK.
People learn to be needed to to be loved and secure in being loved.
They teach their loved ones, children and partners, to need them so they won’t leave or disobey.
They give to get Love.

They seek to find the piece that is missing.
They demand the “loved” one to give them what they believe they need.
When the demands are met, they feel happy and complete.
When their “needs” are unfulfilled, they may be depressed, angry, threatening or withdrawn.

When we find inner wholeness, peace and Love ourselves, we no longer seek to be loved.
When we are complete within ourselves, our love will be simply for the joy of loving.
When we have freedom and trust within ourselves, we need not seek from another.
When we need nothing, we are free to share everything.

Loving with freedom and trust is natural.
Loving for the joy of giving is natural.
Loving is a natural way of creating communion.
Loving is our natural state.

If you are seeking to find Love, look within.
If you are giving to get Love, Love yourself.
If you are needing to be loved, find Love for you within You.
If you are long to be in a Loving relationship, know, love, trust, respect and free yourself first.

Love is letting go of fear, neediness and dependency.

Loving you,
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

It makes no difference
how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Amazing Albino praying mantis. It was first seen in our home. Robert carefully put it outside and has found it or another like it both in our front coutyard and back patio. We feel blessed.