Tuesday, July 26, 2005


Often we take on relationships which are projects…one a teacher and the other a learner.
These relationships are for the purpose of healing or helping both people to remember and fully realize Love and the power of Love.
When both parties are willing the teaching and learning is fun, safe and easy.

The Keys to successful relationships are Joining in a common vision or goal, honesty with no withholds or secrets, equality in giving our best to the other, commitment to the highest Good and taking responsibility for the quality of relationship without guilt and blame.

When there is unwillingness and resistance, judgment and fear, comparison and belittling of self or the other, the relationship is painful and unfulfilling to both.
The attachment to fixing or changing the other or desiring a certain outcome can lead to disappointment, frustration and suffering.

You can choose to stay attached and suffer.
You can choose to stay and accept the way it is.
You can choose to stay and be grateful for what you have.
You can choose to stay and appreciate all you give and learn.
You can choose to leave and stay disappointed, angry and suffer.
You can choose to leave and accept life's opportunities to learn, let go and choose again.

Your inner teacher knows what is highest and best for all concerned.
When we are stuck in our own judgments and distorted perceptions, we cannot see the higher ground.
You may want to set a goal, ie. Peace of mind (from which will follow understanding.)
Then give the goal and your relationship to Spirit.
When you give your relationship to Spirit, let go and observe, giving both trust and freedom to the Highest Good for all concerned.
Watch what happens.
Appreciate everything that comes up.
And keep envisioning the Highest Good for all concerned.

Yes, all of us are teachers and learners.
Yes, teachers are learning as they teach.
Such is the value of teaching and learning.
When the teaching and learning is complete, there may be a change in the form of relationship.
Some seek to prolong the relationship because of prior commitments, societal mores or security.
Some seek to end the relationship with criticism and judgment, pain and bitterness.
Some appreciate and bless what has been completed and make it easy to let go.
Some participate fully in the honorable closure until both parties are open, willing and peaceful.
Some leave first, make amends and heal the release later.

You may want to make a list of all you are learning in your relationship.
You may want to express all you are grateful for with your partner.
You may want to focus on the Good that has come from your Union with your chosen one.
You may want to ask Spirit to tell you if and when it is time to let go before you move on.

When two people come together who are at the same level of relationship, they may stay together for a lifetime relationship with both teaching and learning, giving and receiving equally. This seems to be rare.
I experienced this level of relationship when I had completed my more challenging assignments.

Remember Love is the way.
Love is trust and freedom.
Goodness and God are in charge.
Cling to nothing and no one.
Love and let go and what is meant to be with you will stay until you are complete.

Loving you,
Betty Lue