Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Trust, Trust, Trust

I trust in The Power and Presence of Love in me and all life.
I trust my inner voice to guide me to what is Highest and Best for All.
I trust that my needs are met as I give my life to Love.
I trust everything works together for Good.
My job is to remember to TRUST!

What do you trust?
Who can you trust?
Who knows what is best?
Who is trustworthy?

When we live with distrust, how do we learn to trust again?
When we experience unfulfilled promises, how do we trust in our parents, teachers and authorities?
When we see and experience violence, disease, rejection, abandonment, what can we trust?
When we never have experience an honest and trustworthy relationship how do we trust?

Each child is learning from a world which often teaches:,  Do Not Trust.
Each child is experiencing: There Is Nothing to Count on.
Each child is listening to words that say: Question Everything.
Each child is observing that adults Do Not Trust One Another.

I realize this may sound extreme for many of you, but for some it is accurate in your experience.
It feels like it is time to change our experiences, both given and received.
It is our responsibility to teach one another to trust in something or someone.
Most of all, we need to learn to trust ourselves by being still and listening within.

Consider what it would take to remember to trust.
Consistency,dependability, loyalty, honesty, being faithful are all qualities of trust.
Can you trust these qualities in yourself and others?
Do you model the highest ethical standards in your work and at home?

Are you reliable and dependable?
Do you tell the same truth consistently?
Do you honor your agreements?
Are you willing to tell the whole truth all the time?
Are you on time and remember to keep your appointments?
Are you respectful of others time, energy and money?
Have you taught your children you can be counted on no matter what?
Do you always remember to be thoughtful and kind with what you say and do?
Are you true to the highest principles in you?
Do you trust your own inner voice?
Do you know consistently what is right for you?
Do you believe in God, Higher Power or Goodness?
Are you trustworthy in the decisions you make?
Do you know how to develop trust in a relationship?
Can you kids, friends and partner trust you always choose for their Good?
Do you always consider others’ best interests as well as yours?
Are you consistent with your rules and boundaries and agreements?

When we cannot trust in ourselves, we cannot trust others.
When we are not trustworthy, others will not trust us.
When we are always changing our mind and our choices, others cannot count on us.
When our emotions are fickle, others may not believe us.

Consider becoming someone you can trust, believe in and count on.
Consider listening within before making decisions which you may want to change.
Consider becoming a person you can rely on because you keep your agreements.
Consider learning to be trustworthy and trusting others.

Loving us as we wake up an learn to live in trust, as trust for the purpose of building trust.
Betty Lue

Trust- Building Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.