Friday, April 12, 2013

Relationships: What Do You Want?

(This is for your significant other as well as every relationship with friends, coworkers, children and parents and strangers)

Do you know what you really want?
When you simply allow attraction to guide you, you may be fooled.
When you go to a restaurant, lots of things look good and smell good.
When you let your senses choose, you may get sick or feel unhealthy.

The same is true in all relationships, they can make you sick or hurt or unhealthy.
Choose with a clear vision in mind.
Make a list of what you want to experience in your ideal relationships.
Be clear and specific about the qualities you want in your relationships.

Your ideal list might include: ease in conversation, supportive, willing to share, patient, honest, open and trusting, quick to forgive, good sense of humor, respectful, responsible and dependable, steadfast, integrity, easy to be with, available, good ethics and morals, accepting, happy, and peaceful, etc.

Use an affirmation that includes what is most important to you.
Write and say daily until you know it is believed by you.
I now attract my ideal life partner who is willing to grow in love with me throughout our lives.
I am now all that I seek in my ideal partner and am totally willing to grow in love over time.
We easily and quickly recognize, forgive, heal and clear all the blocks that interfere with love.
I give my very best and receive the best in all my relationships.

Every relationship has the potential for being healing, positive and fulfilling.
Use affirmations that support you in seeking and appreciating only those qualities you value.
Remember that what you give attention to will grow, therefore, only look for what you want.
Our tendency to find fault only increases what we claim to want to eliminate and heal.

Every upset, criticism and difficulty in relationship is a healing and learning opportunity.
When we judge and avoid and quit, we cannot learn.
When we withhold love from our self and others, we do not heal.
When we recognize that all relationships are for the purpose of healing, we forgive and extend love. 

Most people use relationships to get what they think they want.
The cost of giving is receiving. 
The cost of getting is forgetting what we have to give.
When we are in a relationship to “get”. we may act and talk needy and greedy.

The more we think we are lacking, the more we believe we need to GET.
The more we believe time is limited, the more desperate we may become.
The more we believe we are little or less than, the more we make act arrogant or meek.
Love grows when we are grateful to be, do and have the opportunity to GIVE Love~

Relationships are Loving Reminders.
When we remember to Love no matter what, we are happy and fulfilled.
When we forget to Love, no matter what, we are unhappy and dissatisfied.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.

Loving you in loving you and everyone with whom you relate,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships 
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. 
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. 
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.