Tuesday, October 04, 2005

Flexibility and Change

Fixed opinions resist peace and understanding.
Attached relationships fear natural evolution.
Controlled behavior generate rules and guilt.
Demands and threats yield fearful reactions.

When we think we are helping, fixing and making someone change, we may be interfering-- "enter-fear".
When we want to have commitment and build responsibility, we may be demanding loyalty through guilt.
When we are teaching the world through angry words and negative emotions, we may be creating fear.
When we try to be nice when we are feeling hurt, we may be teaching deception.

How flexible can I be when taking care of me?
Give yourself the highest and the best and let go of the rest.
Trust that with life and relationship changes, you need to change your choices.
Trust that when something goes with your gratitude, the next best thing will arrive.
Trust and respect your inner knowing and let go of external rules and commitments.

Life and relationships as meant to serve the participants.
When the experiences fail to be healing and healthy, it is time to change one's choice.
When we offer allegiance to what once was helpful and now is not, it is time to make a new agreement.
To take impeccable care of oneself encourages constant inner listening and honoring the Highest Good.

Using threat, demand and punishment to get your way engenders fear and fearful compliance.
Using guilt, manipulation and bribes to get your way encourages dependence, covert hostility and resentful obedience.
These are two forms of apparent Love in parenting, politics, education and religious compliance.
These forms of Love are often projected and imagined in our relationship with our Creator.

Love is trust and freedom.
Trust and freedom with oneself begets trust and freedom with others.
Trust and Free Will are the primary qualities of our Creator's Love.
As times change the ways in which we live and learn, love and let go change form.
The substance of spiritual principles and universal laws remain the same as described in the teachings of the Masters.

In order to see how these apply, we must be willing to look beyond our narrow beliefs, our guilt-ridden mistakes, our resentment of others errors and our attack on their behavior and choices.
When we are willing to see from many other perspectives, we can become the forgiving and understanding teachers, healers, counselors and lovers we are here to be.
Everyone seeks to give their best.
Everyone is exploring to find a better way.
Everyone wants to love and be loved.
Everyone wants a "good life".
Everyone wants their loved ones to be safe and happy and whole.
So let us begin with ourselves.
Give yourself permission to take impeccable care of you.
Without guilt or blame, change what no longer serves your best self.
Let go of trying to get others to change or understand or obey or comply.

Loving you,
Betty Lue