Loving Reminders

How do we serve?

Are we serving with Love or with fear?

Do we serve to handle our own fears or because we are guided to be truly helpful?

Do we serve because it is our joy or because we feel obligated to serve.

Do we serve in ways that are uplifting and loving reminders or feeling sorry and worried for someone?

Service “serves us.”

The intention with which we love and give and serve is receive by the one serving.

All that we give is given to ourselves.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” reminds us to serve with the best we know.

What we give we receive. 

Our intention is important and belies what will be received by the giver.

When we serve, it is imperative that we pay attention to our thoughts and the beliefs we hold.

In practice, when asked for help, ask in yourself, “How can I serve the highest and best for this one?”

Often the individual does not know what is in their own best interest, so we need to listen with them.

We may be asked for something that we feel we cannot do, and we need to listen to what is best.

We may let our sorrow, fear, duty interfere with what we hear is our responsibility.

Sometimes people sacrifice to be helpful and find themselves guilty or resentful.

When we can give from our fullness, we give with joy and gratitude and blessing for all.

When we are blessed by our service, we have given from Love.

When we are fulfilled in our loving service, we know we are giving from a place that is inspired.

Our response-ability is indeed our ability to respond with Love.  

Response coming from Love, freedom and trust is healing and inspiring and filled with grace.

Reacting from fear, concern and doubt, is unhelpful and discouraging and filled with worry.

When we are full of love, faith, and inspiration, we respond with more love and faith and gratitude.

Service serves all of us.

Service is a blessing of goodness and kindness for everyone.

Helping and Fixing often comes from worry and doubt, trying to do something good.

When we truly serve, we are setting others free, trusting everyone is blessed with trust and freedom.

When you do not know what to do, be still and listen within.

Loving us all as one.

Betty Lue

Helping, Fixing, Serving

Service is not the same as helping. 

Helping is based on inequality, it's not a relationship between equals. When you help, you use your own strength to help someone with less strength. It's a one up, one down relationship, and people feel this inequality. When we help, we may inadvertently take away more than we give, diminishing the person's sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

Now, when I help I am very aware of my own strength, but we don't serve with our strength, we serve with ourselves. We draw from all our experiences: our wounds serve, our limitations serve, even our darkness serves. The wholeness in us serves the wholeness in the other, and the wholeness in life. Helping incurs debt: when you help someone, they owe you. But service is mutual. When I help I have a feeling of satisfaction, but when I serve I have a feeling of gratitude.

Serving is also different from fixing. We fix broken pipes, we don't fix people. When I set about fixing another person, it's because I see them as broken. Fixing is a form of judgment that separates us from one another; it creates a distance.

So, fundamentally, helping, fixing and serving are ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak; when you fix, you see life as broken; and when you serve, you see life as whole.

When we serve in this way, we understand that this person's suffering is also my suffering, that their joy is also my joy and then the impulse to serve arises naturally - our natural wisdom and compassion presents itself quite simply. A server knows that they're being used and has the willingness to be used in the service of something greater. 

We may help or fix many things in our lives, but when we serve, we are always in the service of wholeness.

--Rachel Remen, from Zen Hospice

Where do we place our attention?

Are we so caught up in the details, that we are distracted from our intention.

Do we work so hard to please others, that we forget what brings us joy?

Are we lost in the complexity of life. so we neglect the beauty of its simplicity?

Let’s notice the beauty and order, the love within, what is given and created and of service.

The detailing comes after the underlying intention is fully appreciated.

When I do the work, I enjoy the ease and gratitude with which I am willing and able to complete.

The work is easy when the good intention is a constant reminder and never forsaken.

There are some who are focused on the details, the structure, rules, schedule and are judging.

There are some among us who are focused on the cause, intention, spontaneous responses.

There are some who look at the overall outcome and move with ease and joy to completion.

There are some who are never quite satisfied with the result and need to correct and improve.

The inner and outer processing of information, perceptions, projects and relationships is individual.

Trust in the perfection of all things comes easily for some and is more difficult for others.

The focus of each individual is a composite of past history, experience, beliefs and comparison.

The speed at which we process and work depends on intention, focus, energy and what we can do.

Look around your world.

What do you see?

If you love it all, be grateful and enjoy it.

If you don’t love it, simply forgive it all with an eraser filled with love and CHOOSE AGAIN!

People fear being responsible for the world they see, because they don’t want to feel guilty.

People judge others, blame, demand, and feel victimized, because they don’t want to be responsible.

However, they miss the value of being able to respond with ease and gratitude and conscious choice.

Step in to life. When you see what you don’t want to be, forgive and ask “What can I do?”

When you see something that (you believe) needs to be done, it is yours to do.

I don’t judge anything that I am not willing to do or undo.

If it is none of my business, it is none of my business.

If I can do something about making a difference, I do it now.

The difference I make is often simply forgiving my judgment! (Judging gets things stuck!)

I sometimes simply choose to see it differently, seeing the benefit, the gift.

Sometimes I love “the Hell our of it”, sending so much appreciation that the yucky stuff dissolves.

And often I simply ask, within, “How can I be of help and service?”

When all is said and done, this is my world and yours is your world.

We are each creating our own experience of our reality.

Only we can change what we see and how we receive what we perceive.

I prefer to be happy, so I change my mind, my perceptions and my responses.

Loving us all in our individuality to have what we want and value,

Blessed be us all as we learn to value what is valuable.

Betty Lue

What if you believed that to be true for you?

Would your relax and go with the flow, staying open and willing to respond with loving kindness/

Would you let go of fear and worry, doubt and resentment?

It is possible that when we are doubting ourselves we interfere (enter fear) with the highest outcome.

It may be that when we are totally trusting we tune in to what is the best for everyone.

It could be that without judgment, we slip into the Divine flow of all Good things.

I might appear that without fear we can see what really is All Good and All God.

Whatever you make up about how the physical and spiritual Universe works, it does work.

Just like in sailing or surfing, we need to catch the wind and catch the wave of the Divine.

To interfere or think with fear and worry, misdirects our right Course and go against the flow.

Even misperception and misdirection can be a blessing of learning and spiritual realization.

So what will it take for us to take a break from thinking too much and over-correcting our path?

What do you need to trust more, believe more, receive more and give gratitude for what is?

How can we let go of what we have been taught, “be careful, make sure, wait a minute”?

When will we learn to always know, “We are blessed, we are loved, because we are Divine.”?

When we let go and know that everything will work our right, we step out of the way of our Good.

When we release worry and fear, we can see more clearly and know more wisely and love more purely.

When we trust in the peace of God and listen to the loving guidance within, we trust in Good.

We may be seeing an external force guiding and directing our lives with clarity and purpose.

We may be feeling our inner faith guiding us individually to live purposefully with ease and grace.

We may be simply clearing feelings of unworthiness and fear of karma, and allowing love to enter in.

We may be opening the way for blessings and miracles and good stuff to be really received and enjoyed.

However we remember and receive the Goodness and blessings, it is all good for all.

When one is benefitted, everyone is blessed.

What is good for you is good for all.

For when you are happy and whole, everyone you encounter is benefitted and blessed by you.

These Loving Reminders are a gift to me and often to many of you.

When you read them, it is right for you.

When you don’t read them, it is right for you.

When we stop judging, demanding, expecting and resisting our Good, it is always there waiting for us.

Let it be and so it is.

The Blessings already are.

Love is Real and everything else made up.

Dreams do come true, when we wake up.

Loving us all as one,

Betty Lue 

Are you giving your best in every relationship?

When you give Truth you receive the Truth you share.

When you give to others what you wish for yourself, you receive it in the giving.

It is in the giving the best that you receive your own favor.

It is in the giving the best that you feel pleased with yourself.

It is in the giving the best that you feel worthy of the best.

It is in the giving the best that you feel happy and grateful.

We have been rewarded by others for doing our best, in school, home and work.

This has caused a belief that giving our best will result in others rewarding us.

Then we believe others should reward us and we seek the reward.

We learn to seek others’ approval and rewards for giving our best. 

We need to unlearn giving to get.

We need to remember giving for the sheer pleasure of giving.

We need to realize all giving is a gift to ourselves.

We need to recognize that our reward is in the giving.

It is in giving that we receive the joy of doing and giving our best.

When we contribute to good with what we think and say and do, we increase the Good in the world.

When we demonstrate the abundant joy and life energy that comes from freely giving, we open the flow.

The more we give without thought of loss or sacrifice, the more we trust and free ourselves to give.

Contribution is really paying tribute.

When we give from Source to Source, we are re Sourcefull.

When we recognize we are giving to the One, all of us, we receive everything we give.

When we receive all that is given with Love, we receive always and only unlimited Love.

Each one of us is a gift.  

The real gift is in the giving. 

And the gift to the giver is in receiving the true gifts we give.

When we appreciate all that is given  to All, we receive unlimited Abundance. 

To give our best is to receive the blessing of being willing and able to give and receive.

When there are conditions on the giving or the receiving, the experience is limited.

When there is withhold or judgments about what is given and received, there is limited appreciation.

Take time to give your best.

Pay attention to how it feels inside.

Free yourself to give fully to everyone.

Appreciate how fully you give gratitude and joy to yourself.

Loving us all for the Gifts we really are,

Betty Lue

Are you a good friend?

Are you a good partner?

Are you a good parent?

Are you a good to all others?

Are you as good as you want to believe you are?

Would you like to take an inventory of your thoughts, words and actions?

Are you open to learning how to be better in all your relationships?

Would you like to consider some better ways to love, to serve, to help, to listen, to encourage?

Do you keep confidences with your children, friends and partners?

Do you encourage and not criticize those with whom you associate?

Do you offer advice and opinions without being asked?

Do you know what is best for others, rather than supporting them in finding what is best?

Do you think you know for others, but neglect to know and do for yourself?

Do you make up that you can are better than they are?

Do you compare yourself and your choices with others?

Are you good to yourself?

Do you remember to appreciate yourself and your accomplishments?

Do you treat yourself with respect and kindness?

Do you enjoy your own company?

Do you believe in yourself and your abilities?

Do you give yourself what the lifestyle that is healthy and supportive?

Do you surround yourself with good people whom you admire and enjoy?

Do you eat, drink, watch and indulge in activities that are good for you?

Do you spend the money you have wisely for things that are beneficial?

Do you ask for help and support when you really have need?

Do you take time to play and rest, to work and create a better life?

Do you enjoy the work you do and the people with whom you associate?

Do you trust yourself and your choices?

Do you forgive your mistakes and stop punishing yourself with guilt or self punishment?

Pretending we are think we are good, feels and sounds arrogant, and is unnecessary.

Clear the fear and judgments and you will know you are really good with nothing to prove.

Trusting we always have good intentions makes all the difference, when we are honest with ourselves.

Take the time today, to forgive all thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being good enough.

Affirmations are best spoken and written 20 times daily for at least 14 days 

(or until our mind chatter agrees and there is no internal resistance.

Loving the Good in You, in all you think and say and do.

Betty Lue

When you are loving yourself, you will know how to love others.

When you are loving you, you will know others cannot love well because they do not love themselves.

When you are loving you, you may teach others by example to love themselves and love you.

When you are loving you, you are not needy, jealous, hurt or angered.

When you love yourself consistently, you will love others consistently.

When you forget yourself, you will forget others and they will forget you.

When you deny yourself, you may deny others and they may neglect or deny you.

When you criticize yourself, you may criticize others and they may criticize you.

You see, what you give to yourself, you teach others to also give to you and to themselves.

It is essential for the healing of all that we begin with self love, loving the one we are unconditionally.

It is imperative that we begin within, because no one else knows us as we know ourselves.

It is required that we heal, dissolve and forgive all blocks to loving our whole and holy selves.

When we experience perfect eternal love for ourselves that we know God.

When we see ourselves with compassion, understanding and great appreciation, we know we are Good. When we forgive all our judgments, mis-creations, fears and past history, we begin to see the Divinity.

When we love enough, we are unlimited and powerful and peaceful and creative and truly happy.

When we wait for another to love us unconditionally, we are waiting for one who is loving themselves totally.

These beings are rare. 

Most human beings have learned to judge themselves and punish themselves by withholding love.

Most partners, lovers, parents, friends, siblings cannot give us what we really want until they have it to give.

What would it take for you to be the one, to begin this new consciousness of total unconditional Love?

What keeps you from giving yourself all the happiness, peace, security and appreciation you lack?

Why deny yourself Love and perfect happiness and wait for someone else to give it to you?

Why not choose today to begin a new way to play the game of Life, love yourself and end all strife!

Can you see how happy, helpful and grateful you will be when you love yourself perfectly?

NO matter what others do, love the one you are and see the Best in you.

You can lead the way in your family, in your home and business too to ring the love outside of you.

It doesn’t matter what others do or say, be happy, be helpful, be loving and enjoy being YOU!  

PS. Most people have bad days, or just want to turn down their light, 

Tell yourself it is quite alright.

Take some time off and get away.

Fill your tank with love in whatever way works.

Loving us all as we learn to love ourselves really well.

Betty Lue

What are you here for?

What do you want to do?

Are you living a meaningless life?

Do you desire something more?

Are you happy everyday?

Do you go to bed feeling blessing?

Are you willing to value what you do?

Do you appreciate what you have?

When we are miserable with our lives, we seek and find more misery.

When we are living with regret and fear, we attract more to fear and regret.

When we are allowing the problems to get us down, we live in a world of problems.

When we are consumed with others’ needs and issues, we drown in the enormity of needs.

A drowning or dying person have no help for others.

An empty vessel has no resources from which to give.

When we know our own worth, we are confident in our giving.

When we can trust our own heart, we can serve wholeheartedly.

Most resistance can be overcome with quiet patience and trust.

Easily and quickly let go of what no longer serves with your blessing.

What you perceive and receive from others, you strengthen in yourself.

Do what you love and Love what you do.

Those who have found a way to serve are the happiest and most content.

Seek and find moments, people and circumstances to appreciate.

Make it a habit to look for the Good and the Good will grow for everyone.

Life is a creation from our imagination, thoughts, words, activities, appreciation, inspiration and all we are.

When we forgive and release the clouds, confusion, doubts, miscommunication and focus on what wrong, we give up recreating the misery and choose again for sanity, beauty, goodness and love.

This year, this day, this moment is your time and mine to choose again.

Let’s make this year the realization of unlimited possibility and create the life we really want.

Loving you in loving you.

When you love you, you are loving us all.

Betty Lue