Sunday, July 12, 2020

Feel Better

Affirmations:
I choose to give my best by being my best.
I respond to my needs and my self with love and appreciation.
I give myself what is best for me.
I encourage everyone to do what is best for them.

You Will Feel Better!

You will feel better when you feel better!
You can will yourself to feel better.
You can choose to imagine feeling better.
You can use your power of choice to feel better. 

Practice feeling bad and then practice feeling good.
Notice how you breathe and hold your body when feeling good and feeling bad.
Envision how you look when feeling good or bad.
Watch yourself in the mirror when you feel inspired, energized and happy.

When you can feel the difference quickly, you are able to change your emotional and physical state.
Pause and deliberately change your state inside, (how you feel) and outside (how you look to other).
Begin to recognize you are the one choosing to alter your state of mind, body and spirit.
Your interaction with your whole self makes a difference to your whole being.

Be kind to your body, mind and Self.
Be respectful of your physical experience, your thoughts and your current state of Well Being.
Listen to your thoughts, feelings and energy.
Respond always with caring and daring to give yourself what is asked.

So often people deny what they need.
Often people betray themselves.
Many people disrespect themselves.
Are you listening and responding to your needs with love.

Do you eat what your body wants for nutritional energy?
Do you sleep peacefully in a quiet and wholesome environment?
Are you open to listening to what is healthy for you to hear and see?
Do you associate with people who are positive, peaceful and happy with their lives.?
  
You can feel better when you do what is better for you.
You will do what is better for you when know you deserve better. 
When you put yourself first, you will inspire others to do better for themselves.

Your own well-being will encourage others well-being.
You teach by example.
Your self-improvement changes your attitude, health and happiness.
What is best for you will inspire others to do better for themselves.

When you have not known what is better, you may not realize how to do better.
Watch others whom you admire and learn what they do.
Listen to others who teach well-being and inspire yourself.
Make a simple list and begin today to do what is good for you in every way.

Every positive change will impact every part of your life to be more healthy, happy and fulfilled.
Begin today.
Appreciating your open-mindedness and willingness.
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 11, 2020

Emotions

Affirmations:
I honor emotions as a need to listen with great sensitivity and respect.
I allow the need to move or change something within all emotions.
I accept feelings as communicating energy that needs to be heard.
I trust that everyone is always communicating the best they know.

Emotions Are Communication.

Are You Listening?
Crying is trying to tell you something.
Temper Tantrums are communication.
Is Anyone really listening?

Can you interpret your own feelings?
Are you paying attention or merely suppressing?
Do you ask what your emotions mean?
Emotions are energy expressing itself for you to hear.

When you learn to respond with Love, you will come to peace.
When you learn to listen to others with caring, they will feel heard.
When you can interpret the language of emotion, you will understand.
When you are open and willing to respond to all things with Love, you will find inner Peace.
  
Become aware of your own language of emotion.
Emotions are energy in motion.
When we judge or block the movement, we are stuck.
When we are willing to listen and share, we can do something.

When we flow with what is being expressed with respect, we are released.
Listen to the language of emotion.
Respond with love and hear the words and will and choices and requests.
Be open to showing the way to not block what is felt, but open the flow to healthy action.

Infants cry to tell you their need.
WE must listen and respond with kindness.
Toddlers tantrum or act out because they need to be heard.
We must pay attention and hear what is being expressed.

When we attend to the basic need, the emotional expression will become a rational request.
When we hear the request, we can share what we hear with active listening and learn how to respond.
When we learn how to respond with Love, we can demonstrate how each can manage their own need.
All humans develop dependence on another or independence to manage their life choices.

When you feel guilty about another’s emotional upset, you may not hear or interpret well.
When emotions are abundant, much is distorted or exaggerated.
It is important to calm and clear ourselves before responding appropriately.
It is essential that we seek to be truly helpful in order to satisfy what is needed.

Consider listening first and then attempting to respond by asking what may be preferred.
Consider responding first with kindness and empathy with: “I am sorry. What can I do?’
Consider waiting until the storm of emotions as calmed before attempting to be rational.
Consider caring enough to be fully present without guilt, anger or blame.

Emotional expression is always an attempt to meet an unmet need.
So, listen for what is really needed.

Blessings in this sensitive and essential area of needed Loving response.
Betty Lue

We can become more responsible by choosing our emotional state or vibration. 
Victim state or “at effect” is below the line and responsible or conscious state above the line.
Most people live in fear and allow themselves to feel victim to their emotions.
When you become at choice, you are responsible for your thoughts and feelings. 

 SCALE OF EMOTIONAL STATES 

              SERENITY OF BEINGNESS
              EXHILARATION
              CHEERFULNESS
              STRONG INTEREST                             
              CONSERVATISM
              CONTENTED - MILD INTEREST
              BOREDOM - DISINTEREST
PLUS

___________________________________________________
MINUS
              HOSTILITY - ANTAGONISM
              PAIN
              RESENTMENT - HATE - ANGER
              COVERT HOSTILITY - UNEXPRESSED RESENTMENT
              FEAR – ANXIETY
              NO RESPONSIBILITY
              MAKING AMENDS - GRIEF - SYMPATHY
              HELPLESSNESS - USELESSNESS
              APATHY - VICTIM
              PITY - FAILURE
              SHAME - BLAME – REGRET
*************************************************************


30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.


Daily Practice:
Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.

Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.


Now write and say 30 Choices. 
I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….



In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes
I appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.

PS Even a few of each is better than none. 
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.
The key is your willingness to 
DO THE WORK!

Friday, July 10, 2020

Choose!

Affirmations:
I choose wisely and well.
We either succeed or we learn.
I learn from mistakes and choose again.
I am responsible for my choices.

You and I Can Choose.

When I am conscious, I can choose wisely.
When I feel safe, I can choose kindness.
When I remember Love, I can choose to express Love.
When I prefer a good outcome, I can and will choose Goodness.

If you are predicting drama, you will choose drama.
If you are criticizing and blaming, you will choose to make others wrong.
If you don't care, you will choose resentment and regret and separation.
If you are feeling sorry for yourself, you will choose self pity and neediness.

You can choose differently.
No matter what the circumstances, you can choose better for yourself.
Your attitude determines the experience you have.
With positive thoughts and feelings, you have chosen positive outcomes.

No one is a victim.
We all are volunteers.
When we victimize ourselves, we believe that externals determine our experience.
When we pre-judge what will be, we will experience our assigned outcome.

Volunteer for what you want to be.
Volunteer for learning and growth.
Volunteer for healing and health.
Volunteer for happiness and enjoyment.

You can always have more of what you want.
You can always be what you want to be.
You can always experience fulfillment.
Life is your canvas and learning laboratory.

Begin to practice with a better attitude.
Notice what happy people do to be happy.
Determine what you want from life and choose it daily.
Ask how you can change your mind to enjoy life more.

You are the chooser.
You are not a loser (unless you affirm you are!)
You are meant to rise up with inspiration and motivation.
You are here to give your best in order to experience the best in you.

Every dream can come true when you allow yourself to believe you can.
Every joy can be yours when you change your picture of what will be.
Every possibility will make itself known to you when you trust you can choose.
You are just now waking up into the reality you choose to have and hold with Love.

I am trusting and believing in you and me to set ourselves free to be All We Can Be.
Betty Lue

Thursday, July 09, 2020

Relationship Healing

Affirmations:
I am here to love and heal what is needs love.
I am responsible for the quality of my relationships.
I begin with treating myself with respect, trust, appreciation and love.
I want all my relationships to be treated well and so I treat them all with respect.

Heal Your Relationships! 

You will heal your relationships by healing yourself.
All upset is a wakeup call.
Everything that is not right for you is calling you to look at your past for healing.
When you are at peace with yourself, you know that others who are not OK are asking you for help.

When I am not at peace with myself, it will show with others.
When I am unhappy, I will project it on others.
When I am disrespectful with me, I will disrespect others.
What is upsetting in me, I tend to project and perceive in others.

We project our healing needs onto others.
We give advice to others that we need to hear.
We blame others for what we have guilt about.
We seem to look for outside cause, rather than heal what is hurting within us.

When you complain, see what you can do within yourself to stop complaining.
When you are angry, consider what you can do to stop trying to hurt and blame others. 
When you are needy, ask yourself how you can fill your own needs.
When we depend on others to take care of us always, we will have intermittent results.

When people love us, they can and will do it well when they are loving themselves well.
When people are feeling hurt, scared, upset, lonely, angry, they will have difficulty in loving anyone well.
It is essential that we learn to take responsibility for our needs and ask for help from those who are able.
We must learn to discern who is able and willing to be truly helpful for themselves and others.

We may find that unconditionally loving and giving people are rare in our experience.
We may see that we need to become unconditionally loving for others who are in need.
We may even feel drained by hurting and needy others, especially when we have denied ourselves.
It is essential that we forgive ourselves for not appreciating, loving and caring well for ourselves.

What will it take for you to be responsible for our own needs?
What do you need to do to create partnerships, families and friendships that are healing and healthy?
What can you do to start everyday tuning into what you need and fulfilling that need first?
How do you love yourself every day in every way you are aware?

When you awaken, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to fulfill myself today?”
“What will make me feel happy and valuable today?”
“How can I give myself what is good for me?”
At the end of the day, give yourself a list of “gratitudes” and own them as your loving responsibility.

You have created your life as it is.
You can change your relationships, communication, thinking and emotions.
You can stop judging, blaming and feeling guilty.
You can let go of past errors and begin again today in the healthy and positive way.

You can, because you want to heal your relationships with yourself and with others.
I trust you and me to always look for the best ways to heal ourselves and others.
I give my best because you deserve it and so do I.
Betty Lue

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

FOUR AGREEMENTS by don Miguel RuizTake nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR ALL RELATIONSHIPS With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
 

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Wednesday, July 08, 2020

Interdependence

Affirmations:
Love is Freedom.
I free you to be you.
Love is Trust.
I trust you to freely be who you are.

Dependence – Independence – Interdependence

Our basic human needs are survival, safety, love/belonging, esteem and self actualization.

Dependence
We are a species born to be dependent on our parents, elders and teachers.
To survive we learn from observing, listening and as well as receiving sustenance and guidance
We listen and follow instruction and learn through trial and error.
We learn to adapt to a variety of people who may teach us differently.

We seek approval and learn to please to get what we need and want.
When we discern what is valued by each adult/teacher/leader we can accommodate.
We are valued for our obedience and our dependence, as we grow in self sufficiency.
In the beginning of our lives dependence can be fostered, ignored or discouraged by care givers.

Independence
When our ego is fed, we grow strong in confidence, assertiveness and decision-making.
Usually in the stage of adolescence or emancipation, we begin to assert our independence.
We choose alternative facts, experiences and creative competition to succeed in being best or right.
Our independence fosters creative problem-solving, innovation, and making decisions independently.

Independence is where we learn to take responsibility for successes and failures.
We learn to persist even when there are challenges, resistance and difficulties.
In the independent phase we learn to benefit rather than blame and to grow in courage.
The desire of independent adults is to “do it ourselves” without interference from authorities.

Interdependence
When we have mastered the basic human needs (above), we may return to seek interdependence.
In families, businesses, organizations, we seek to interact with others in a respectful and responsible way.
Our desire to cooperate encourages mutual benefit to all parties for win= win outcomes.
With an attitude based on the principles of being fair, caring and sharing, everyone benefits.

When everyone helps everyone succeed with no winners and losers, all persons become more conscious.
With mindfulness and consciousness following universal principles, everyone grows in understanding.
“Two become more than two” and ”One for All and All for One” is understood and actualized.
The experience of interdependence in unavailable until individual independence is achieved.

Consider where you are on your path to fulfillment and creative consciousness.
Consider what steps you need to take to be fully and freely independent.
Consider what individual basic needs you are called to fulfill first.
Understand where others are around you as you allow their personal journey.

There is freedom and trust, as we learn to accept ourselves in our own journey.
There is respect and allowance for others, as we let go of judgment and comparison.
There is creativity and diverse opportunities, as we allow ourselves to dream and vision.
There is enthusiasm and gratitude, as we step out in faith with daring and certainty.

Life is Good wherever we are in our own journey.
Loving, Trusting and Freeing us All.
Betty Lue

Tuesday, July 07, 2020

It’s Your Time!

Affirmations:
I use my time wisely and well.
I engage my mind and body in meaningful, productive, inspiring activities. 
I put people first and do not interrupt my conversations.
I maintain my relationships in the more healthy and effective ways I know.

What Do You Do With Your Time?

It is all your time.
You can do as much or little as you want.
You can make up for lost time.
You can create no time at all.

Time really is ours to do what we want to do.
Some waste time.
Some use every minute.
Some feel pushed by time.

How do you feel about the time you have?
Do you enjoy how you use your time?
Are you a victim of the time you have?
Are you always rushed to get things done?

I have made friends with time.
I see it as a valuable resource.
I use time wisely and efficiently.
I like what I do with my time.

I seem to expand time as I have more to do.
I can create what I want with the time I have.
I like having a full schedule of happy activity.
So I choose to use time for happiness and fulfillment.

I love focus, so I focus on one thing at a time.
I trust I have enough time to get everything done.
Even at the last minute, I am using what I have.
I feel inspired and motivated to use my time well.

The house is neat and orderly, before I go to bed by 10 PM and up by 6:30AM
I wake up ready to make my bed and get ready for work and answer emails.
I listen, write and email my daily Loving Reminders usually in the AM.
I prepare food for lunch and handle laundry and other house needs.

 I am in my office phone, FaceTime or Skype with my clients for 6-8 hours daily.
Everything is as fun and fulfilling as everything else because I value it all.
I use my time in ways that feel helpful, beneficial, inspiring and fulfilling. 
I love my life and my life loves me.

Yes, I spend an hour or so daily with paperwork, phone calls and business.
I usually walk or do water exercise daily and eat organic vegetarian and drink plenty of water.
I keep myself inspired with loving and positive and appreciative thoughts and words.
I am dedicated to using my whole life well for the good of all.

Encouraging you to use what you have consciously with gratitude and joy.
Betty Lue

Monday, July 06, 2020

Dedication

Affirmations:
I dedicate my life energy to thinking, speaking and doing Good.
I am devoted to inspiring, encouraging and facilitating the Highest and Best.
I trust myself to listen and learn, teach and observe, give and receive what bring Peace and Happiness.
I dedicate myself to sharing the Best I know.

Dedicate Yourself to What Inspires You.

Your life is precious.
Your energy is powerful.
You have gifts to share.
Share what inspires You.

When you know what matters most, you will be inspired.
When you understand how important you are, you will be motivated.
When you recognize what makes you powerful, you will feel grateful.
When you live your life as though all life matters, you will see what matters most.

Dedication is the opportunity to give your All to what gives All to you.
If you want more abundance you will devote yourself to being, living and giving abundantly.
If you want more power, you will use your energy to use your power with Love and wisdom.
If you want more Love, you will give your love in thoughts, words and behavior to everything with Love.

Choose dedication to what is dedicated to you and your best.
Your life is your gif to give and receive. 
When you give your Self to the Goodness in your own life, you will prosper.
When you are grateful to what fulfills you, you will benefit yourself.

What will it take for all of us to wake up and see what we have?
What do we need to see and feel and know to dedicate this life to fully living?
How can we enjoy what we have if we are busy judging, complaining and regretting?
Can we recognize we are where we have chosen to be?

Consider being really dedicated to being grateful.
Consider being happy with where we are and what we do?
Consider finding the presence of mind to be fully engaged.
Consider being inspired everyday with what is now.

Are you aware of how you utilize your time?
Do you know where you waste your energy?
How do you spend your money?
Dedication is devoting your resources of time, money and energy to what matter most to you.

Give time, money and resources consciously.
Forgive yourself for wasting time, energy and money on what is not valuable to you.
Stop and see what inspires, fulfills and energizes you.
Your dedication will create abundant life energy for you.

Know Your Self.
Be true to Your Self.
Pay attention and learn daily.
Enjoy the Life Adventure.

Dedicated to Loving Reminders for you and me and All.
Betty Lue