Sunday, May 26, 2019

Love No Matter What!

I am always loved, whether I know it or not.
I am Love Itself.
I share Love easily and naturally.
Love is the Way, the Truth and the Life.

Unconditional Love Prevails

There is no greater gift than to know Unconditional Love.
There is no greater experience than to be loved without conditions.
To know how to love even One forever and always is a profound healing and awakening experience.
To open one’s heart to love everyone is the Eternal Bliss of Freedom and Trust, True Enlightenment

Love feels.
Love heals.
Love reveals.
Love is Real.

Sometimes we cry with Love.
At times we sigh with Love.
Often times we smile with Love.
And perhaps we die with Love.
Love never ends.
So no matter what, we continue loving.
We give all we have and more is given.
We share what we know and more is known.

When we get stuck with judgment.
When we fear being rejected,
When we feel guilt or regret,
We can always return to love.

Love never leaves us.
It waits for us to return.
Love never deceives us.
Forgiveness looks deeper.

Love is the answer to every prayer.
Love is the song we sing when we dare.
Love is the gift that is received in the giving.
Love is the way we know abundant living.

Whether we know it or not, love hits the spot.
When upset, angry or filled with regret, return to Love.
When we allow love to be blocked, we easily find the key.
Forgive ourselves for withholding our natural state of Love.

Love is the answer when caught in doubt.
Love is the power, when lost in helplessness.
Love is the healing, when we feel hopeless.
Love is the light when we are hiding it the dark.

When we answer with Love, we release all fear.
When we listen to Love, we find the way.
When we remember to Love, we return to wholeness.
When we seek only Love, we see the Light.

Love, only Love and you will know You Are only Love.
Loving you with all my heart and soul.
I am here to always remember to Love.
Betty Lue

True Love needs not to be recognized, acknowledged or appreciated.
It is received in the heart of all beings, whether the personality knows it or not.
Give only Love to all those, in body or not, present or far away, open or closed.
This Love will heal and bless you both.

Saturday, May 25, 2019

Screen Time for Kids and Adults

I use my time wisely and well.
I engage my mind and body in meaningful, productive, inspiring activities.
I put people first and do not interrupt my conversations.
I maintain my relationships in the more healthy and effective ways I know.

Are We Addicted?

Does Anyone Care?
Is anyone doing the research?
Do we understand what is natural, healthy and good for us?
Are we a generation needing entertainment and connection and filling every moment?

I remember setting my infant in front of the TV when I was dressing for work in 1965.
However there was no television on during the day or at night.
I was busy at work and busy at home.
She was busy with school and day care and having fun at home as she became mobile.

Fifty years ago, we began focusing on fascination with screens above people.
Some have the television on all day and night no matter what with never silence.
Some use the phone to play games, do research, get news and gossip.
Some use their screen time to avoid, hide, escape, entertain, feel connected.

Is there a healthy limit?
Are we interfering with real relationships?
Do people feel excluded and unimportant?
Have we normalized using the screen, computer, cell phone and video games to avoid people?

People talk about each other rather than with one another.
Kids learn a favorite TV show comes before them.
Often folks fill boredom and loneliness with screen time.
It seems many go to bed with TV and sleep with the TV on.

Is it possible we are developing an inability to be alone?
Are we afraid of silence and using our inner time to find peace?
Are we creating more fear by watching and listening to the news/
Are we programming ourselves to be unable to converse in kind respectful ways?

What happens to a child’s brain when the scene changes every few seconds or minutes?
Are we losing our ability to focus and hold a conversation for an hour in person?
Does violent crazy confused thinking increase with extended time watching it?
Do we make fun, bully gossip and act rude because of what we see on TV?

Have we changed our manners due to what we see and hear on the screen?
Are we unable to focus and have social skills because of what we watch?
Do we no longer have the ability to attend and calm ourselves because of our programming?
Is sleep more difficult because of the over stimulation of our brains?

I suggest research for adults and teens and kids.
Find out what is healthy and unhealthy.
Google “healthy limits on screen time for kids and adults.”
There are many, many websites with great information for us all.

Remember adults set the example.
Do what you say is best for others.
Follow your own rules.
We need moderation in all things.

We will see our addiction when we cannot put it down, or turn off the TV or computer.
Try one week or even one day without technology.
Try eating as a family or spending an evening with no TV, computer, cell phone or video games.
Try vacationing just spending time together.

I trust humanity will begin to see the sleep problems, attention difficulties, violent speech and behavior, disrespect for parents and teachers in teens, headaches and eating disorders and must more related to what we view and listen to on screen.
It has many problems associated with it, yet people seem to be addicted.
Do the research and make a log of all your time on phone, TV, playing games or checking facebook.

Thanks for caring and sharing.
Our own research and observation is always the best source of what is right for you and your family.
Loving You,
Betty Lue

Friday, May 24, 2019

Parenting Today

I take tine to listen and respect what others want.
I acknowledge I don’t know what is best for others.
I forgive my mistakes and choose with more mindfulness.
I pay attention and learn from everyone, no matter what their age

The answers below can be applied to all ages, even ourselves!

Kids Are Obvious.

Is anyone paying attention?
Their behavior communicates, if we are paying attention.
If we cannot understand, are we willing to listen?
If they do not do what we ask, do we take the time to care?

My first response to a Mom who is dealing with a 4 yr. old who throws fits.

Kids copy what they see and hear.
What does he see?
What does he hear?
Is he being treated fairly and respectfully?

Start with the basics.
Where has he learned the behavior he displays?
Who listens to him?
How do the adults in his life respond to him?

Where and with whom does he “throw a fit?
Always look to yourself and see what you can do different.
Start here and then begin to look at what he needs more of.
Structure is important and so is freedom.

Being responsible is important and so is making good choices.
Can he choose what he wants to eat and wear and do?
Is he doing what is age appropriate?
Does he need something different than you or day care provides?

This behavior is also seen in rebellious teens and argumentative adults.
We often experience the same behavior in kids 13-14, ten years later.
It is normal to try to become more free and independent.
It is beneficial to learn to make your own decisions.

Kids may need guidance to make good decisions and do the right thing.
Kids of every age need positive role models and good opportunities to make good choices.
Kids must be treated with respect and given responsibilities appropriate for their age.
Parents often are unaware of what fits their child’s level of development.  (See responsibility list below)

My mom believed, “Give everyone (kids) as much responsibility as they can handle plus a little more to grow into!”
I believe we tend to underestimate our kids and treat them in ways that limit their decision-making.
When they get “free” of adult authority, they either act out and go crazy or are afraid and shut down.
Our work is to make the next generation, stronger and healthier, more conscious, caring and capable.

Let’s consider what we want for the next generation and give them the opportunity to be their best.
Consciously and respectfully,
Betty Lue

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
From Dr. Wayne Dyer
What Do You Want More Than Anything For Your Children?
          Value Themselves
•           Be Risk Takers
•           Self-Reliance
•           Freedom from Stress and Anxiety
•           Have Peaceful Lives
•           Celebrate Present Moments
•           Experience a Lifetime of Wellness
•           Creativity
•           Fulfill Their Higher Needs
•           Feel A Sense of Purpose

YOU must Demonstrate / Model:
• The ability to enjoy life.
• Be a positive example.
• Clarify what you know and how you feel.
• Be expressive (Feel–Want–Willing

Average children do things right.
No limit children do the right thing. 

Basic Principles for Building Self-Esteem in Your Children
1.         You must model self-respect.
2.         Treat each child as a unique individual.
3.         A child is not his actions.
4.         Provide opportunities to be responsible and make decisions.
5.         Teach enjoyment of life each day.
6.         Provide praise rather than criticism.
7          We become what we think about. Our thinking determines our self-image

To Raise A Child’s Self-Portrait (Self-Image)
1.         Encourage children to be risk-takers rather than always taking the safe road.
2.         Discourage children from all self put downs.
3.         Reduce emphasis on external measures of success.
4.         Work at reducing whining and complaining behavior.
5.         Encourage excitement about everything in life.
6.         Encourage children to choose independence rather than dependence.
7.         Teach children to be non-judgmental.
8.         Encourage children to be honest with themselves.
9.         Be aware in the importance of appearance to young people.
10.       Encourage healthy thinking.
11.       Catch children doing something right. Remind them of how terriffic they are.
12.       Treat children as total and complete, now.
13.       Hold them, touch them, kiss them.
14.       Listen carefully to your children.
15.       Give them opportunities to be unique.
16        Encourage their friends to “hang out” at your home.
17.       Read aloud with them at all ages.
18.       Be involved in their age-related activities.