Sunday, August 13, 2017

Honorable Closure

I complete today with no regret.
I give and receive as I am called.
I am at peace and in love with all my relationships.
I honor myself and others by living consciously and with loving kindness.

Completion Without Regret

When you want to say goodbye, say “God Be With You.”
When you want no leftover sorrow, complete your time together.
When you are truly done, be done with peace inside.
When you are finished with any aspect of life, leave with gratitude.

It is time to realize we have work to do here
It is our opportunity to teach and learn what we have committed to.
We can quit, avoid, or judge ourselves for what is left undone.
We can walk away and feel incomplete, guilty and remorse.

For a feeling of completion, we must acknowledge our wins.
We are here to give our best to everything we think and say and do.
We are to give our all to those we have relationship.
When we don’t finish what we started, the ghosts of the past will haunt us.

Consider what is needed to finish our work.
Focus on what seems left yet to do.
Decide to do what is needed before we leave.
Say “thanks” for your part in what was done.

Pay attention to what you have learned.
Notice what you wish had been different.
Ask yourself what remains to be done.

Relationships are for teaching and learning.
Relationships are to heal ourselves.
All things are lessons for us to learning.
Every upset is a wakeup call.

Some last briefly.
Some are temporary.
Lifetime relationships are rare.

When the teaching and learning is complete, people often move on.
You never know what is complete for the other person. 

Honorable Closure

How do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or friendship? 

How do you know you are really complete?
People may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier emotionally.  
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be with You”.

When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.

Honorable closure acknowledges:
1)   the learning and growth received,
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced,
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4)   forgiveness and amends made.

**Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
**Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
**And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.  

Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.   If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude. 
I am grateful I have learned… 
I am grateful I was challenged……
I am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..

Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  
Begin now!
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace. 
Do it Now!

Betty Lue  1983