Sunday, September 14, 2014

Healing Communication

I connect easily with myself  and others  when I am open to listen.
I respect and honor myself for caring and daring to listen and share.
I trust myself to share authentically.
I free myself to fully express who I truly am.

Communication means coming together as One”.
Where there is no harmony, there is no true communication.
Where there is no peace, there is no understanding.
Where there is no respect, there is no one listening.

Open and honest communication occurs only when each person feels safe.
Safe means feeling listened to, loved and respected.
Safe means no judgment or criticism or being made wrong.
Safe means the full attention of the listener without interruption.

Safe communication is difficult when there are time limitations or emotional reactivity.
Peaceful listening and open perception happens when we are not holding fear or resentment.
Open-hearted communication happens when we ourselves feel safe and at peace.
Discontinue trying to listen or be heard fully when you are no longer at peace.

Observe to learn how clouded we get when we are not able to be present.
Clear your own field of awareness before listening and talking with others.
Step away and breathe, forgive yourself and the mistakes of the moment.
Set your clear intention, true goal and highest good for all, before resuming communication.

Learn to listen more.
Breathe to stay open.
Honesty comes with non judgment.
Awareness with loving acceptance is healing.

Consider not talking when upset or defensive.
Consider taking timeouts when feeling angry or hurt.
Consider putting feelings into writing and read before sharing.
Consider how you would feel to hear the words you want to say.

Communication is most effective when you listen first, inside and outside.
Communication is most helpful when you create a kind, respectful space.
Communication is most healing when you are willing to drop your position.
Communication is most trustworthy when you set an intention for peace.

More communication affirmations:
I give myself and others freedom to express our authentic Self.
I make no assumptions, keep my agreements and give my very best.
I listen for the tone of voice, the facial expression and body language along with the words.
I trust full communication when we dump toxic words in safe places.
Blessing us all for doing our very best with everyone all the time.
Love is freedom and trust for each of us to learn in our own timing and way.
Betty Lue

Toxic thoughts, words and actions must be dumped in safe ways.
Never puke and poop on people.
What is hurtful and makes up sick must be released in private dumping grounds.
Learn to flush the toilet, write it and burn it, let it go to do no harm.

Most Destructive Blocks to Healthy Communication
1) Nagging and Criticism ( Use constructive requests and be specific.)
2) Defensiveness (Listen and make no excuses.)
3) Contempt with Name-Calling, Belittling and Shaming ( No using guilt or blame.)
4) Stone-Walling, Ignoring and silent treatment  ( Talk or write when calm.)
5) Belligerence, Threatening, Demanding ( Forgive yourself for using power to get your way.)

Keys to Successful Relationships ( Constructive choices)

Join with Love and Respect-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honesty with compassion and kindness- Communicate your highest intention.

Equality in Realizing the Good in All-Each give the best they know in each moment.

Commitment to Healing and Wholeness- Agree to what is highest and best for both.

Responsibility- Respond to everything with forgiveness and peace.

Listen without guilt or blame. Be willing to let go and choose again for Love.