Friday, November 30, 2012

Relationships Basics

Criticism Does Not Work.
(This includes nagging, demanding, threatening, blaming, belittling and withholding Love.)

All criticism is really about the critic.
It is information to be responded to with Love and respect.
Ie. “Thank you.” Or “ I hear you.” Or “I trust that is what is true for you.”
When we recognize they are telling on themselves, it is a request for forgiveness and Love.

If the criticism is helpful for us, it is valuable to use it to make positive changes.
Others’ criticism of us is an invitation to for forgiveness and new choices.
It is always valuable to thank those who help us to change in positive ways.
This encourages respectful communication.

Guilt Does Not Work.
Guilt often creates more of the same behavior.
Guilt limits, contracts and get us stuck in repetitive behavior..
Guilt often leads to shame, blame, withdrawal and avoidance.

When people express anger and blame, they are feeling guilty about their lack of Love.
When people feel guilty about whatever they have done or have not done, they may blame or withdraw.
When people blame or withdraw, they are calling for forgiveness and Love.
When people are separating, detaching or leaving us, they are demonstrating their lack of love and guilt.

When our partner or friend or stranger feels guilty, they need our forgiveness and love.
When another is attacking or withdrawing, we must not take it personally.
When they imagine they have hurt or offended us, they feel more guilt.
When they feel more guilt, their behavior worsens with more attack and/or more withdrawal.

If we can be aware of the effect of guilt, we remember forgiveness and love are the solution.
If we do not take on their attack and criticism or withdrawal and rejection, we will offer Love.
If we take nothing personally and know it is theirs to heal, we can let it go and allow Good to flow. 

This is true for children, teens, marriage partners, friends, coworkers, and even ourselves.

How To Effect Positive Change

Using behavior modification is a simple and effective way to create positive change 
1.     Ignore the behavior you want to extinguish or undo.
2.     Reward the behavior you want to encourage and increase.

As we learn to praise, smile and appreciate everyone everyday, we can truly effect change.
It is our positive responses and reactions that create positive behaviors,. 
We can learn to eliminate our own negative reactions and ignore the behaviors we dislike.
We will remember that where we give attention (positive or negative), the behavior increases.

We make the difference we want to see in ourselves and others with praise, appreciation and positive regard.

Loving and Appreciating our willingness to be the change we want to see.
Betty Lue

Relationship Perceptions

·      Perception is a mirror, not a fact.
·      What we see in another is a projection of our history and our internal judgments.
·      Therefore, we see what we want to see in the moment, what fits with our current ideas, beliefs, and attitudes.
·      Relationships are an opportunity to become a spotless mirror.
·      Relationships show us where we are stuck in our opinions and self-judgment.
·      Healing our perceptions, clearing our relationships, loving everyone equally, and cleaning our mirror is the purpose of the world and physical experience.
·      Present moment experiences reflect past similars. We recreate past patterns until we come to peace and clear our misperceptions.
·      The major portion of all relationships with lovers, spouses, children, employers and friends is to clear the past.
·      Awareness with no judgment is healing. Simply notice.
·      We are responsible for our experience and receive what we have asked for exactly as we have asked.
·      Everything works together for good.
·      To consciously give ourselves and our relationships to Spirit is to allow the undoing to occur in an easy, natural way with trust in the outcome.
·      To the degree we respect ourselves, we are respected by others.
·      To the degree we abandon ourselves, we are abandoned by others.
·      To the degree we listen to and honor ourselves, we are listened to and honored by others.
·      Also, to the degree we love and trust ourselves, we can love and trust others.
·      So, it behooves all of us to clean up our own relationship with ourselves—to let go of everything that blocks us from respecting, being with, listening to and honoring, loving and trusting ourselves. Indeed, this is the cure-all for relationships.
·      The simple truth is that the outer reality is but a reflection of our inner thinking.

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Does Anyone Really Know?

We are currently in Portland with step daughter Lacey and her husband and two grandkids, Maegan , a first grader and Guy who is now 7 months. We are helping with unpacking, organizing and decorating their new home.  An easy favorite project for us. Tomorrow we have lunch with my ordaining Minister and dear friend Mark Spencer and his wife Kathleen. 
I am always sending Love and extending Peace to you all.  Betty Lue

No one really knows how much we do?
No one really cares how much we do?
No one really appreciates how much we do?
Because most people are focused on what they do.

For those who do more than their fair share:
Don’t expect others to really care unless they understand.
Don’t expect others to step in and help unless they are already helping.
Don’t expect others to fully appreciate what you do, because they don’t appreciate what needs to be done.

I may be writing to you who does “everything” in your household or at work.
I may be writing to the one who takes primary  responsibility and stays late to work.
I may be writing to the one who fixes, organizes, cleans up messes and makes everything work.
I may be writing to those of you who let the other guy do the work and take credit or complain.

We need to remember is that people learn best through natural consequences and experiences.
Poeple tend to reject, resent and even rebel against those who nag, complain, criticize and blame.
When we do what we do, we need to be doing it because we have chosen what is right and true for us.
The ones who do, decide and dare to do what needs to be done must realize it is our choice.

When we take full responsibility without guilt or blame, we can easily correct our errors.
When we take full responsibility without seeking approval or asking for opinions, we are free to choose.
When we  enjoy the job we have done, we know it is what we want and how we want it done.
When we appreciate what we have accomplished and given, we receive our own honest evaluation.

When the most conscious person sees what need to be done, it is ours to do.
We can do it ourselves.
We can delegate to a happy and willing person.
We can hire it done by someone we trust.

When we are happy to do the task that is before us, it goes quickly and is easily completed with joy.
When we are willing to volunteer for what needs to be done, we feel blessed to help and to serve.
When we contribute time, money and energy with enthusiasm to what is being called for, we feel blessed.
When we recognize all that we give is really a gift for ourselves, we feel grateful for the opportunity.

Each one of us is called to vision and create, do and accomplish, enjoy and support, relax and renew.
When we balance our energy, we be, do, have and rest.
Life is abundant with caring and sharing, doing and having, being and seeing all Good and only Good.
We are blessed with everything we do and appreciate what we have done.

Let us love one and all for playing their unique part perfectly with no complaints and full appreciation.
Loving you and all, 
Betty Lue

Twelve Daily Steps To Optimistic Living
1. Focus on my successes rather than on my failures.
2. Notice that which I have accomplished rather than that which I’ve left undone.
3. See and acknowledge my beauty rather than focusing on my imperfections.
4. Notice and acknowledge all the times I’ve followed the optimum conditions,rather than judging myself for the times I have not.
5. Acknowledge all my wins each and every day.
6. Create and maintain an environment that nurtures me.
7.  See problems as opportunities to learn from rather than as obstacles to avoid.
8.  Tell the whole truth on a moment to moment basis in order to maintain impeccable and loving relationships.
9. Be conscious every moment to put positive thoughts into my mind rather than negative, knowing all thoughts are creative.
10.  Appreciate my feelings as a means of understanding myself, thus directing and creating my reality.
11. Continue to forgive myself and others as a means of creating a state of Grace.
12. Fill my life with joy and ecstasy by practicing daily the art and skill of verbally expressing my gratitude for all that I have.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Respecting Differences in All Relationships

When you love, you respect differences.
When you love, you do not have to become life partners.
When you love, you may choose to disagree.
When you love, you do not quit loving because you have differences.

There are cultural differences.  
There are male and female differences. 
There are differences in expectations.
There are differences in life choices and living styles.

When we make a choice to marry, or employ someone or have a roommate, we must adapt to differences.
When we commit to partner, there need to be clear agreements about what is expected.
When both parties agree (often best in writing), it is essential that changes in agreements be expressed.
When we grow, we change our ideas and ideals and therefore our changes must be acknowledged.

When we judge the love of another based on whether they agree with us, we are mistaken.
When we quit on loving someone because they are making new choices, we hurt ourselves.
When we stop trusting , based on them choosing to respect their own needs first, we are in error.
When we feel hurt or humiliated because people change their minds, we are limiting ourselves.

Love is respecting all differences which come from knowing and trusting the person.
Love is not trying to change the other, but coming to acceptance and understanding.
Friendship is developing a respect and trust and acceptance of others.
Companionship is choosing to keep company with those who enjoy similar experiences.

When we are clear about who we are and what we want, we can wisely choose what we prefer.
When we are unclear about who We are and what we want, we learn from a variety of experiences.
When we know what we want, we can maintain our friendships without making others wrong.
When we celebrate our own growth, we can accept others healing and growing with respect and grace.

Sometimes relationships “outgrow” each other and lose interest and desire for maintaining the connection.
Sometimes friendships “outgrow” each other because they move on to other interests and relationships.
Sometimes companions “outgrow” each others’ Company because they develop differing interests.
Sometimes partners” Outgrow” their partnership because they have satisfied their individual needs.

There is no guarantee for longevity in a relationship.
There is no requirement to maintain a relationship.
There is no commitment that cannot be changed.
There is only the freedom we give to those we love to honor themselves.

When we love, we must learn to trust ourselves in Love.
When we love, we must learn to free one another in that Love.
When we love, we can choose to continue loving no matter what others choose.
When we love, we can give ourselves the gift of freedom and trust in our own choices as well.

Love never quits, even though it may change in form.
The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
Betty Lue

Healthy Relationships— 
Healthy= what works for both parties
Relationship= where we see something other than ourselves
Keys to Successful Relationships
Vision—Sharing a common goal.  This implies having the same picture and working together, supporting one another in the fulfillment of that vision.  When the goals are completed, new goals must be set.
Recommendation: Set the Highest possible goal for your relationship with life. 
Honesty—Be willing to be self-disclosive and honest about your current viewpoint.  
No need to gossip, rehash the past or compare with others.  
Be present moment in acknowledging your own lack of peace and responsibility for your own happiness. 
 rase with love=Forgiveness.  
True honesty is LOVE.
Equality—All are equal, no one better or worse, no one right or wrong.  
Each one is a teacher for everyone.  
Open to giving and receiving the natural gifts being given.  
Acknowledge your thoughts, words and behavior are teaching all.  
Give your very best all the time.  
Teach what you want to learn.
Commitment—Be genuinely committed to living your Highest Truth.  
Live by your spiritual principles.  
Be true to your word.  
Keep your agreements and promises to yourself and to others.  
 Support everyone in what is for the Highest Good of All.  
Be unselfish in your commitments. 
Response-ability—Our perception, our judgment and subsequent emotions are totally our responsibility.  
To be in successful relationship we must take impeccable care of our own happiness by maintaining a state of constant forgiveness, letting go of our preferences and seeing what is with Love.
In relationships we learn to heal our attachments and free ourselves from the judging mind which traps us in the roller coaster of emotional highs and lows.  In relationship we learn that trust, patience, tolerance, gentleness, honesty, generosity, open-mindedness, defenselessness, joy, faithfulness give us everything we want.
Practice with everyone and everything.  
Life is our learning lab. 
Use life with kindness and gratitude.

Viewpoints from Mind-Mapping for Marketing.
In relationship our work is to let go of our likes and dislikes.  See what is and trust in the process.  Love is being aware and at peace with what appears to be.  Hold nothing in judgment.  Let go and Love.
Amoral.......... I don’t care about anything.  ............................................................. infancy
Ego................. Its all about me.  I am needy.............................................................. toddler
Pleaser.......... Whatever I can do to please you.  How can I make you happy? ..... latency
Authority...... Don’t tell me.  I know and I am right................................................ adolescent
Responsible.. I am willing to do my part.  Fair. Care. Share.................................... adulthood
Principled..... I live in integrity with my values.  Authentic and on purpose.......... maturity
Universal...... Whatever serves the Good of All.  We are One................................. enlightened

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Forgiveness Creates Miracles

Forgiveness is an eraser filled with Love.
When you have forgiven, your mind is free of the past and only Love remains.
Love is God. God is Love.  Love is Good.  Good is Love.
The words do not matter when know Love and Goodness simply are.

How often I have experienced the miracles of forgiveness!
How many times I have seen the healing power of Love!
How much peace and renewal have come with letting go of fear!
How rich life becomes when we celebrate the Good we have!

There is nothing Goodness cannot do through the Love in you.
Take time to heal what is not real.
The feelings you have are temporary.
The FEAR you feel is False Expectations Appearing Real.

It is time to be Who and What You are meant to be.
We are here to live life free and abundantly.
We can do it each independently.  
We do not need agreement or others’ understanding to be free.

Take time to notice and observe and note the restrictions limitations and rules you believe and follow.
Write them down as you notice all limiting beliefs, mistaken patterns and unhealthy habits.
Then ask  yourself what your life would be if you were totally free with no rules or limitations.
Give yourself permission to imagine a life of total freedom and trust.

What would you choose to do and where would you choose to go?
What would you choose to have and with whom would you partner?
How would you live and what would you share?
What is your idea unlimited life, perfectly free and totally trusting?

Are you willing to a life free of rules, except for those the Love in you chooses?
Are you willing to trust your inner guidance, your intuition and your purpose?
Are you willing to be happy and free, effortlessly living your vision for yourself?
Are you willing to let go of needing others’ approval or seeking others’ appreciation?

Forgiveness releases all blocks of fear, judgment, neediness, dependence and distrust.
Forgiveness opens the way to seeing ourselves healed, whole and holy.
Forgives frees us from past experiences of restriction and lack of confidence.
Forgiveness inspires us to follow our inner direction with focus and commitment.

Give yourself permission to be all you can be today and everyday.
Make this day the happiest and most loving day of your life.
Give your best Self to each one you encounter along the way.
You cannot fail when you know you are unlimited in Love and faith in You.

Blessings abound, 
Betty Lue

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem.

 It makes no difference 
  how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake. 
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

 If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest 
and most powerful being in the world.

Emmet Fox

Monday, November 26, 2012

Reconciling Differences

“Can you give me some simple short skills to apply when someone signigicant in my life does not accept my truth,statements of facts.  Interpretation of facts based on their belief system is very difficult  to go forward and resolve some common issues when belief systems are confused with feelings. Guess a simple application and definition of the two might be helpful that I could read and forward to another significant  party. This seems to happening with only one major person in m my life. I'm at a loss with numerous attempts.” From a Reader.

There are differences of opinion.
There are differences of perception.
There are differences of values.
There are differences of choices.
There are differences of understanding.
There are differences of experiences.
There are differences in life purpose.
There are differences in feelings.
There are differences in facts.
There are differences in life paths.
There are differences in how we think.
There are differences in communication.

When we need to be “right”, we do not understand others.
When we know we are “correct”, we believe others are wrong.
When we fight to prove ourselves, we select what supports our view.
When we try to win, we make others lose.

There is no right way.
No two people see the same thing.
Perception is based on beliefs.
Opinions are based on experiences.

Researchers and authorities find facts that supports their theories.
Family members have preferred ways of dealing with their responsibilities.
People have different preferences. 
When we can respect others viewpoints, truths, preferences, opinions and values, we teach respect.

We can be the ones to reconcile differences by honoring what others want to believe.
Trying to get other’s approval requires constant effort in knowing and understanding their preferences.  
When we approve of ourselves, we no longer need others to do or believe whatever is “true” for us.
Learning to let go of getting affirmation for our own choices is freeing and comes from trusting ourselves.

There are always differences among all people.
Loving is letting go of needing to reconcile differences.
Loving is learning to trust and free others to have their own life. 
Accepting difference is a key to inner peace and serenity, happiness and well-being.

When our value is to trust, love and respect one another, we stop trying to convince.
When we understand and accept our differences, we listen, learn, let go and love one another.
When we no longer need to be the same, we trust our differences are all for the highest Good.
When we live our lives allowing others to be where and who and how they are, we are at peace.

Life is meant to be a place of freedom and trust where we simply Love one another.
Loving you as you are.
Betty Lue

Relationship Perceptions

·     Perception is a mirror, not a fact.
·     What we see in another is a projection of our history and our internal judgments.
·     Therefore, we see what we want to see in the moment, what fits with our current ideas, beliefs, and attitudes.
·     Relationships are an opportunity to become a spotless mirror.
·     Relationships show us where we are stuck in our opinions and self-judgment.
·     Healing our perceptions, clearing our relationships, loving everyone equally, and cleaning our mirror is the purpose of the world and physical experience.
·     Present moment experiences reflect past similars. We recreate past patterns until we come to peace and clear our misperceptions.
·     The major portion of all relationships with lovers, spouses, children, employers and friends is to clear the past.
·     Awareness with no judgment is healing. Simply notice.
·     We are responsible for our experience and receive what we have asked for exactly as we have asked.
·     Everything works together for good.
·     To consciously give ourselves and our relationships to Spirit is to allow the undoing to occur in an easy, natural way with trust in the outcome.
·     To the degree we respect ourselves, we are respected by others.
·     To the degree we abandon ourselves, we are abandoned by others.
·     To the degree we listen to and honor ourselves, we are listened to and honored by others.
·     Also, to the degree we love and trust ourselves, we can love and trust others.
·     So, it behooves all of us to clean up our own relationship with ourselves—to let go of everything that blocks us from respecting, being with, listening to and honoring, loving and trusting ourselves. Indeed, this is the cure-all for relationships.
·     The simple truth is that the outer reality is but a reflection of our inner kingdom.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

How Do You Let People Know?

How do you let people know you care?
How do you tell people they matter to you?
How do you express your gratitude?
How do you show that you love?

Most people now email instead of write letters or cards.
Often they don’t write “Dear ……”
Most people now text instead of talking on the phone.
Often they don’t write or speak full sentences.

Most now do several distracting things while they talk with others.
Rarely do people sit down and have a time of sharing.
Most rely on holidays to get together with family.
Other family times are often for crisis times and special needs.

Are you too busy or disinterested?
Are you narcissistic or uncaring? 
Are you so self involved that you cannot find time?
Does it take crisis to show you care?

When you have not experienced the pleasure of simple quality time, just enjoy others’ company, you may not know how.
When you have experienced the pain of other’s craziness and addictive behavior, you may not want connection.
When life is so full of drama, gossip and overwhelm, there may be no time for sharing and caring.
When you are fearful of investing in others for fear of being hurt, you may detach from showing our feelings.

It is possible that the next generation will only learn to live for themselves.
It is possible that you find it unsafe and difficult to give to others.
It is possible you do not know how to get through to those who have closed the door to Love.
It is possible you believe you do not need to trust and Love one another and so avoid sharing deeply.

When you find a safe place to let loving feelings show, nurture those relationships.
When you find a trust with another, build it with honesty and genuine appreciation.
When you create an opportunity to demonstrate you care, enjoy it with more caring.
When you break through the barriers to Love, be trustworthy and never forsake that Trust.

Take time to care about yourself.
Use affirming words, special moment of connection (prayer or reflection), gentle touch, gifts of self appreciation, self ourselves with good deeds.
Refer to to see what is just right for you to care for you and for others. (assessment)
When you love, respect and trust yourself everyday in everyway, it is easy to reach out to others.

Take time to say “Thank you.”
Take time to say “How Are You?”
Take time to say “I love You” and “ I care.”
Take time to say  “How can I be of help?”
Take time to listen deeply, before speaking.

I hope you hear, feel and know how very much I care about YOU,  Yes You!
I know you in my heart, even if I don’t see you or  hear your voice.
I love you as you are and I care.
I thank you for loving and caring about yourself and others.
Every time you love anyone anywhere, I receive that Love and I feel blessed.

Thank You,
Betty Lue 
I am here for you and with you.

The Gift You Are

You are the gift.
In your healing, I am healed.
In your smiling, I find joy.
In your learning, I am filled with wisdom.
In your free expressions, I am empowered.
In your abundance, I too prosper.
In your spontaneity, I am set free.
In your joy, I know heaven.

And so it is that you give your Self to me
And I receive you with love and gratitude.
I am the gift I give to You
And I fully receive the gift I freely give.

As I know You, I know my Self.
As I give to you, I receive all good.
As I support you, I am supported by the Universe.
As I honor and respect you, I experience gratitude in all my being.
As I love you, I am loving all of God's creation.

I know you and believe in you.
I honor, respect and support you in being.
In you and me is all the Universe.
We are gifts to one another.

       - Betty Lue

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Time to Reflect

When was the last time you were quiet?
When was the last time you stopped thinking?
When was the last time you were alone in silence for 24 hours?
When was the last time you listened within for your own heart song?

Do you ask your true Self you reason for Being?
Do you wonder what you life is really for?
Do you seek answers to the Real questions you have?
Do you sit with paper and pen and listen for what you really want to know?

What you listen, you can hear.
What you seek, you will find.
When you open your heart, you will know Love.
When you are unafraid, you can hear the Voice for Love.

Each one of us are here to heal.
Every one has something to make whole.
We all came to forgive and return to Love.
We are here to give the Love we seek to find.

When we live a meaningless life, we may feel empty, lost, confused and depressed.
We may look for someone to give us pleasure and try to get the Love we seek.
When we live without purpose or desire to contribute, life is never enough to satisfy us.
When we love our Authentic Selves, we realize there is a desire to give and live abundantly.

Give yourself 24 hours to be alone with no distractions.
Give your Self time to get to know you.
When you are ready, take time by the ocean or in the woods.
Listen to the sounds, look at the natural beauty and get in touch with the Real You.

Vision Quest or a weekend away with no TV, phone, internet or conversation begins to clear the mind.
Be willing to just sit and do nothing.
Watch the clouds and listen to the wind.
Breathe in the Life force that lives in and around you.

Take time to listen within.
Write down what you hear.
Read it again later.
And you will get clear.

The messages that come from our inner Self, the voice of inspiration and Love, will guide us perfectly.
We already know the Truth we seek, but cover it up with many voices and opinions of the world.
Let the externals stop drowning you in complexity and confusion.
Be Self referring and you will know what you need to know about what to do and where to go.

There is a place within that leads to a fun, safe and easy life of Love and Grace,
Betty Lue

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

1.       The essence of our being is love.
2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.
3.       Giving and receiving are the same.
4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.
5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.
6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.
7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.
9.       We are students and teachers to each other.
10.     We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.
11.     Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.
12.     We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.
Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.
Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

Friday, November 23, 2012

Value Giving and Give Thanks!

Do you value what you give?
Do you value all you have?
Are you focused on what you can get?
Do you appreciate how much you give?

In the world many seem to be focused on acquisition.
In our spiritual development, we must focus on contribution.
“Giving to get” is still focused on getting.
Giving for the joy of giving is giving for its own sake.

With True giving we create.
With True giving we bless.
With True giving we remember.
With True giving we become One.

When we value the joy of giving, we give thanks.
When we value the gift of living, we give thanks.
When we value the blessing of sharing, we give thanks.
When we value the receive what we give, we give thanks.

Wherever we are thankful, we recognize the abundance we have.
Whenever we are grateful, we realize the blessings we have received.
However we remember to give thanks, we fully enjoy the gifts that are ours.
For those we love and those who love us, we give thanks.

For many the enjoyment of giving happens later in life.
Our children seek to give their creations to us for our smiles and hugs.
When they are ignored, neglected or dismissed, they cautiously give.
When their gifts are received with delight, enjoyed and celebrated, they give more.

Giving is natural for those who love.
Giving is the way we discover what we have.
When we give with every thought, word and deed, we create the world we seek.
When we appreciate all we have given, we receive all our creations and gifts.

To have All is to Give All to All.
We cannot truly have when others are lacking and limited.
We cannot fully know until All are awakened in wisdom .
We cannot fully be until everyone is free to be themselves.
We cannot truly be happy until all recognize the peace and happiness within.

 Life is for giving.
You are the Gift.
It is in giving the gift you are, that you remember Your Self.
Remember to love the Gift You Are.

I know the Love You Are.
I will never forget to Love.  
I will never quit on You.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Gratitude Celebrates All !

Are you giving thanks today?
Are you grateful for yourself?
Do you fully appreciate your life?
Are you conscious of the Good all around you?

When we are not fully aware of the Love we are, we may miss the Love in others.
When we are focused on what is not, we may be unaware of what really Is.
When we are lost in the judgment and fear, we may not see what is really true.
When we believe we are limited in Good, we deny, ignore and neglect the Good we have.

When we do not appreciate what we have, we cannot create the Good we want.
Take time today and everyday to be grateful.
Take a moment to release all regrets ad complaints and experience the joy and gratitude.
Pause with a breath to forgiveness and inspiration to see the abundant beauty of all creation.

Thank the sky and the sea.
Behold the blessing of you and me.
Take time to celebrate with wholehearted glee.
Remember the gifts of Great Mystery..

Look around you and be thankful for those who planted the fields with our food.
Take a walk in the woods and fully enjoy the boundless and beauty and balance of nature.
Recognize everyone you encounter with a smile and greeting that confirms your Love.
Be willing to sit at your table with no regret and give thanks for what you have.

Give thanks to those who created our educational system, medical facilities, transportation system.
Be appreciative of the truck drivers and janitors, doctors and nurses, teachers and principles.
Be grateful to those who create and maintain all that supports our livelihood today.
Enjoy the bounty and blessings we have in our grocery stores, produce stands and markets.

Do you remember to be thankful with appreciation and remuneration to all service providers?
Do you offer fair pay to those who serve you as housekeepers, beauticians and personal servers?
Are you respectful of those you employ and those who take care of us on the phone and internet?
Do you take time to genuinely appreciate good service wherever you make a purchase?

The more we give with joy and gratitude, the more we appreciate what we have.
I know that giving is receiving. 
Having rests on giving.  
When we appreciate what we have, what we have increases.

Let us be thankful everyday for all we have.
Remember the people in your life.
Enjoy each moment and recognize it is your creation.
When you let go with gratitude and blessings, you create again what is true for you.

Loving us all as the grateful creative people we are.
Thank you for remembering the Good in you and sharing it with others.
Betty Lue

You are  my spiritual partners as we conspire to co-create a better world.
My heart smiles and my spirit rejoices.  
Your gifts of love and appreciation inspire me and feed my soul.  
Celebrate the gifts we share and grow in abundance and beauty.  
Offering all I am given in Love,  supports, strengthens and affirms this Love. 

I love you, as you live the life you consciously desire. 
I am supported and sustained by your kindness and generosity.  
May you  honor your Holy Self as you walk in Goodness, Beauty and Love.

Loving You,  
Betty Lue

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Complain or Appreciate?

Complaining is draining.
Choosing again takes willingness.
Admitting we are wrong may hurt.
Wasting time trying to be right hurts more.

Every irritant, big and small, is a wakeup call.
Every upset, criticism and complaint, is showing us we are off purpose.
When we know, love, trust and respect ourselves, we know our higher purpose.
When we believe in ourselves, we choose what supports the best in us.

Begin where you are.
Make note of what you judge the most.
Observe where you become upset and irritated.
Ask your mind, the archives you have stored your beliefs and experiences, judgment and feelings.

The real reason I am irritated or upset or hurt or sick is:_________________________________
Take private time to write down the pages of answers that are stored within.
They need not be logical, make sense or be what you consider important.  
Write them all down on the pages that are there for you to declare.

What we leave denied, negated, ignored or avoided stays within, clogs the system and becomes toxic.
Our personal and collective healing work is to become aware, acknowledge and forgive it all.
Our universal healing work is to forgive everything and everyone all the time including ourselves.
Our spiritual healing work is to clear ourselves so we can fully listen within to the Love in us.

When we get seek agreement for our upsets, we get ourselves stuck in needing to be right.
When we limit ourselves to our chosen judgment, we ignore what is under what is apparent.
When we get lost in the confusion of conflict and disagreement, we deceive ourselves with explanations.
When we have a fixed opinion or long time investment, we justify our complaint until it is ingrained.

When you are clear of all you fear and judge, you can choose again for what you want to be.
When you forgive and release all you confess, you can choose again for what you want to live.
When you know what you want to be so, you choose to believe (be and live) and achieve.
When you grow into what you prefer to know and see, you appreciate your choices.

Complaining only continues the habit of complaint.
Complaining creates more to complain about.
Complaining is a waste of time, money and energy.
The complaint is meant to wake us up to get up and do what we are here to do.

If you see a need, it is yours to fill.
If you have a complaint, it reminds you what to clean up in your own world.
If you complain enough, people will see you as the ‘whiner” and either join you and want to avoid you.
If you begin to be seen as a doer and appreciator, people will appreciate you and become more appreciative.

There is no need to create a fight.
Simply choose to make things right.
Do what you are called to do .
Others will follow your example.

Complain or appreciate.
One is petty, the other Great.
Take time to appreciate.
Your world will follow.

Loving us as we create when we appreciate,
Betty Lue

Affirmations for Conscious Healing  
by Betty Lue Lieber, MFT, Ph.D.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
I now easily bless and release all that no longer serves me.
I forgive with ease and let go with gratitude.
Everyone and everything is either giving love or calling for Love.
I am a Love giver.
The more I give Love, the more I have the Love I want.
Light, light, I want more light.
I choose to live with joy and give with gratitude.
I love my life and it loves me.
I have what I want and share the best I have.
Life works for me.
I am the chooser, never a loser.
Everything always works more exquisitely than I can plan.
I am clear, focused and committed.
I consciously communicate exactly what I want.
I trust in my inner knowing, always gentle, loving and true.
I let go of expectations, evaluations and disappointments.
I am creating a world of healing and love one person at a time.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect me.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more others love and respect themselves.
I give myself the very best and all are blessed.
I am present, peaceful, awake and aware.
I share only the highest Truth I know and then I let go.
My happiness is contagious.
I replace all worry, fear and doubt with trust, freedom and blessing.
Peace and love and joy heal us All.
My body is a vehicle for learning only Love is Real. 

Useful suggestions for applying the technique of Autosuggestion to the Affirmations
Write each affirmation 10 to 20 times. 
Writing is an extremely powerful technique of autosuggestion.
 Work with one or more every day. Good times are just before sleeping, before starting the day and especially whenever you feel at effect.  
They can also be recorded on cassette tape and played back to yourself. 
The best way to do that is by recording each affirmation 5 or 10 times so that you have time to think about them when they are playing.
Make a list of the affirmations that are most meaningful to you.
Put specific names and situations into the affirmations.
Play with the vocabulary in the affirmation--make it personal and meaningful to  yourself.
Say the affirmations to yourself in the first, second and third persons as follows:  
I,  (name), now like myself.  You, (name), now like yourself.   Name, now likes him/herself. 
 Feel free to invent new ones.
 Continue working with them daily until they become totally integrated into your consciousness.
To dissolve negative mental patterns and free maximum aliveness in your consciousness, write each affirmation in order 10 or 20 times.  
Note the ones that are most meaningful or produce the greatest charge.  
Continue working with these until they go flat.  
When they go flat, you are at total cause and master of the results implied by the affirmations.