Thursday, July 19, 2012

Hang On or Let Go?

That is the question.
Is it better to fight to keep what you want?
Is it wiser to let go with love and blessing?
When you Love someone very much, let them go.  
If they are meant to be yours, they will return.

Whatever someone asks of you, do it……unless it does harm to them or to you.
Whatever a loved one needs, give it…… unless it causes pain and sacrifice.
Wherever you see the need, fill it……… unless it takes away from another.
If it comes into our awareness, we have attracted it to heal and learn and respond with loving kindness.

So many people suffer in their attachments.
So often we want others to do what we want.
We may think we own people and their behaviors.
We may believe we know what is best for others.

In reality, we are usually trying to avoid change.
In reality, we want to stay comfortable and stuck.
In reality, we cannot know the big picture.
In reality, we do not know the final outcome.

What if hanging on continues to cause everyone pain and strife.
What if staying stuck sets you up for depression, anger and despair.
What if needing to have it work our your way causes others pain.
What if your clinging to what was just brings everyone hurt and hardship.

Is it possible that letting go is really a gift of healing?
Is it possible that forgiving your neediness is giving your freedom?
Is it possible that releasing another is really giving them happiness?
Is it possible that your willingness to appreciate what was is enough?

We seem to think agreements and relationships need to stay the same forever.
We seem to believe that it is wrong to change our minds and our lives.
We seem to struggle with the concept that change is healthy and beneficial.
We seem to make up that once something is ours, we need to have it always.

Life is temporary.
Change is inevitable.
We need to forgive and choose again everyday.
To count on things lasting in this world is faulty belief.

When a relationship is working, both people are happy, healthy and fulfilled.
When a relationship is not working, one or both people need to make changes.
There is a needed change of place, person or thing.
Those who are stuck and fighting for homeostasis are usually left behind.

Letting go can be fun, safe and easy.
Changing our minds happens most easily when we release and let Go.
Letting go means letting Goodness happen naturally.
Everything always works more exquisitely than we can plan.  
I release and let go.
I let Spirit run my life.
You can too,
Betty Lue
Honorable Closure        

How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship? How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally.   People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”  
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.  
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories. 
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1)   the learning and growth received, 
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced, 
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings, 
4)   forgiveness and amends made. 
Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience. 
Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together. 
Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.  
And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.   
Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.  
Do your part when you part. 
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns. 

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  Begin now.
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.
Betty Lue