All of us have relationships in which we are called to learn to forgive our fears, judgments, guilt and blame.
We have the opportunity to learn a better way, if we choose to learn it.
We have the reminders to forgive and heal now or judge and repeat what happened before.
Forgiveness is the great cleanser, the cosmic eraser filled with acceptance and love.
Use what you know to free yourself of unhappy memories, unhealthy thoughts, unhelpful words and deeds.
Give yourself back to simply Love no matter what.
Love is not an emotion, but a choice to be patient, accepting, freeing, kind, and open-minded.
Give yourself to Love and Love will return to you.
Betty Lue
Healing Relationships
You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.
Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered. This shows us where we have work to do.
The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.
It is ineffective over the long term.
The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us. When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.
This is a big job.
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.
Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,
the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,
the more others will do the same for themselves and for others.
You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.