Friday, April 08, 2011

Key to Lasting Love

Our anniversary of 26 years is April 10.
We move into our town house Tomorrow.

Loving Reminders resume on 11th, when my office is set up.
We move easily and quickly, but always benefit from your positive prayers.



What is the key to a successful and long lasting relationship?

Thanks to the experience of 26 years with Robert, I now can say what truly works.
It was actually revealed this Wednesday evening at our Relationships Coaching Circle.
I listen and learn from what I share with others, often new and surprising to me as well.

The truth comes through when I am coaching, counseling, teaching and preaching.
I listen to others and listen to my Self when I am sharing with others.
I listen because I have committed myself to speaking the highest truth I know and hear within.
I listen because I know that I intend only love and Goodness, healing and harmony for all.

Marriage is the singular most important relationship in raising children and building families.
Families are the foundation of our society and our world.
And yet, marriage is the only continuing relationship, often based on “conditional” love.

Parents and children, siblings, friendships are mostly based on unconditional and forgiving love.

Divorce and separation, physically and emotionally are commonplace in our society.
Couples often break up, having based their relationship on the behavior of the other.
Yet, in friendships and familial relationships, we have learned to overlook and forgive misbehavior.
Children know their parents will love them and support them no matter what.

The key to a successful and long lasting relationships is commitment to make it work.

The key to a loving relationship is unconditional love.
The key to being happy is to be willing to relinquish the need to be right.
The key to being able to achieve your goals is to be flexible and resilient.

Once one knows that the other always has your back, you can go through life confidently.

Once one is sure, with no doubt, that you will always be loved and supported, you feel safe.
Once one is willing to love another through sickness and health, rich and poor, you trust totally.
Once one realizes that the marriage relationship is the foundation for society, one is committed.

Yes, there may be times when there is danger or difficulty, too much to bear and harmful.
There may be circumstances where couples have not been conscious enough to choose wisely.
There may be relationships where passion rather than wisdom has made the marriage vows.
There are times when we know we need to let go.

When conscious and willing ones choose to make the commitment, there must be assurance.
When conscious and willing ones choose to make a vow, they must commit to its adherence.
When we choose to be with another, love can endure no matter what.
When we agree to be with one other, through all of life, we must be aware we mean unconditionally.


The primary key to the strength of our union is we know our commitment is for the Good of all.

When we said Yes to one another, the question was: “Will you wed with me in Christ?” 26 years ago on April 10, we were agreeing to live a life inspired by the highest light and Love, wisdom and truth we knew.
Our relationship was and continues to be guided by Spirit (inspiration within us).
We listen and follow the voice, the calling of God, for Goodness for all.  


Our co-mission is to be “on call for Goodness sake, on call for God”.
We are joined in this healing, holy and helpful purpose.
We are honest and open with everything , with no secrets or withholds.
We give always and only the very best we have in each moment.
We are committed truly to what is best for the other, as well as best for ourselves.  (Win/win)
We are willing to be totally responsible (able to respond) to whatever occurs within the relationship.


With both of us committed to giving 100+%, we cannot fail.
Together with unconditional love, there is only Love, trust, respect and willingness with and for our mission.
With only thoughts of how to serve the Good of All, we take impeccable care of our relationship.
With the choice to learn, to share, to care, to contribute to ourselves and our world, we follow only the will of Good, the Will of God.

No one is left outside our Love.
All are included.
We keep ourselves and our relationship pure and strong.
And thus, We are faithful and true to our commitment to Love.


I am so grateful this is so.
And So it is as I appreciate All the Good.
Betty Lue


B’Lues’s Notes about Our Relationship Ministry
Current Gifts, given and received:

12th year of writing and sending emailed Loving Reminders to thousands around the world.

Publishing four more books: Family Reminders, Healing Reminders, Healthy Reminders, Relationship Reminders (reprinted).

7 days/mo. with grandchildren ( now total of 10 with 4 in OR) They are our greatest teachers.

Counseling and coaching 15-20 hrs. week.  Teaching and facilitating 10-15 hrs. weekly.

Unity Center for Inspired Living,  Co-Ministry of our church, community center and outreach ministry, growing organically.

Reunion Center for Counseling, Healing and Growth in Pleasant Hill offering counseling, coaching, classes and support groups.

Reunion Lake House and Hermitage in Hidden Valley Lake, CA , 2 hours from Bay area and our home.
Come on retreat to the Lake House and Hermitage for your own private renewal and enjoyment!.


Inspirational Retreats  one weekend every two months at the Reunion Lake House and longer summer retreats.

Prayer Chaplaincy Training offered quarterly and supervised monthly.

Our monthly Unity newsletter and weekly Sunday talks are available on line: unityonthedelta.org
 
Quarterly Variety Show and Fun Raisers with Raffle and Silent Auction

We contribute over 50% of our resources, time, energy and money to serve others.

We continue to be “on call for God and Good.”
B’Lue Mission: 
I am the space of trust and freedom where Love is remembered and Our Holiness and Wholeness is realized.
Robert’s Mission:
 I teach, model and inspire Spirit-guided Living.

Co-Mission: Together we are on call for Good and for God.

We live abundantly 
with full appreciation and open-mindedness to the inspiration and guidance of Spirit.

“As long as you relate to the Source, You will be prosperous.”

“And God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance, so that you may always have enough of everything and may provide in abundance for every good work. II Corinthians, 9:8