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Do you care?
Are you helpful?
Do you offer suggestions?
Are you minding someone else’s business?
What is your business?
How do you care for yourself?
Are you effective in helping yourself?
Do you have suggestions for how you can do your life better?
Are you minding your own business?
What is your business?
Are you interfering?
Are you controlling?
Are you demanding?
Are you criticizing?
It is not helpful to interfere, control, demand, criticize.
It is not helpful to care for others when you have not cared for yourself.
It is not helpful to offer suggestions when you have not been asked.
It is not helpful to take care of other’s affairs when yours are in disorder.
The most helpful and loving relationships are those in which we trust others are doing their best.
The most effective way to learn is to experiment, make mistakes and learn from them.
The most supportive relationships are those in which we feel safe to ask for help.
The most constructive way to help someone is to wait until we are asked, listen carefully to the need and respond in the exact way the other has requested.
Most folks just want someone to listen.
As few want feedback and ideas.
Rarely does someone what us to tell them what to do.
To be responsible is to respond with love in the way it is received as love.
The way our parents, teachers and role models “loved” us is often the way we love others.
If we were criticized, we criticize.
If we were belittled or intimidated, we will find ourselves doing the same.
If our parents meddled or were minding our business, we will have the tendency to “love” the same.
These are not “healthy” or functional ways of loving.
These ways of loving are found when we are trying to keep others from making mistakes.
When people are afraid for others, they meddle, interfere and control.
When people are loving others, they trust them to learn and free them to explore and enjoy.
My suggestion over the years for those who find themselves over involved with their teens or parents or others…has been to “get a life.”
Most folks who are involved, nosey, gossiping or criticizing, have lack of meaning and life purpose.
Most people who are critical, judgmental or demanding of others, have not handled their own issues.
Most of humanity has a lifetime of work to do to heal, grow, and develop their own potential.
If you find you are nosey or minding other’s affairs, ask yourself what is missing in your own life.
Meet your personal needs directly.
Take inventory and clean up your own areas of conscious and unconscious omission and commission.
Take impeccable care of your own thoughts, words and behavior, your relationships, finances and home.
It is easier to advise another than to do your own work.
Start by doing the work you need to do and you will have more compassion for others.
Loving the work I do everyday to clean my own inner and outer house and garden.
Betty Lue