Friday, July 09, 2010

Mind Your Own Business

When your bed is made, you can teach others by example.
When your finances are in order, you can share with others.
When your life is working, you have the wisdom and experience to teach.
Until then you are learning what you teach and teaching what you learn.

Everyone’s business is unique to them.
Each individual has their own sacred life journey of learning and letting go.
Each person is doing the best that they know with the resources they have.
Everyone must learn from the natural consequences of their choices.

And so it is that we each individually and collectively learn with one another.
How is it that we can effectively help, not interfere, with one another’s development?
How does an effective teacher reach the students who come to her?
How can we help, serve and remind one another without engendering judgment and comparison?

When we see someone endangering their own life or another, we are called to act.
How do we act without creating more fear and reactivity causing potential harm?
How do we think, speak and behave in ways that are healing and helpful?
How do we give to others what we would want to have in similar circumstances?

There are many courses of action and interaction, depending on our state of mind and ability.
There are many ways to reach others depending on their receptivity and willingness.
To choose one must find the inner peace first to listen within as to how to respond.
To be able to respond appropriately to another we must step aside and connect with their needs.

Learning to stop from habitual reactions is essential.
Learning to look at all options and aspects of the situation is necessary.
Learning to listen to what they want and what our inner guidance tells us is required.
Learning to act from love, trust and respect for all concerned will result in the highest outcome.

Sometimes stepping away with forgiveness and positive affirmation is effective.
Sometimes offering a helping hand with appreciation for the other is valued.
Sometimes asking first if help is wanted paves the way to openness and receptivity.
Sometimes simply offering our opinion or viewpoint is useful and taken as positive wisdom.

I forgive my judgments.
I trust others are always doing their best.
I respect the right of everyone to learn their own way.
I take care for the dignity and safety of children and those who can not care for themselves.
I wait until I am asked for my help or counsel.
I set conditions of time, energy and resources which respect myself and the other.
I seek to be truly helpful and to serve the highest outcome for all concerned.
I ask or assess what will be most helpful to the one making the request.
I give all I have and know and trust to those who are grateful to receive it all.
I invite the receiver’s feedback, compensation, appreciation and willingness to utilize what is given.
Loving us all as we learn to take care of our own business and live in integrity,
Betty Lue