Do you know what you are doing?
If not, forgive yourself and the experience with respect instantly.
Choose again for the healing, helpful and holy purpose you really want!
All can be reversed in time and space, when you release your negative or positive attachment.
Our Judgment holds the emotion and situation in place.
To let our emotional reactions lead our choices is folly.
Fear begets fear.
Attack begets attack.
Resentment encourages resentment.
Being in conflict internally sets up outer conflict and arguing.
Life is quite simple.
If you don’t know what you are doing, you will make mistakes.
If you are wise and loving in your choices, you will experience wisdom and love.
If you are emotionally reactive without rational thought, you will reap emotional reactions.
If you stop and quiet your mind and listen within to your place of knowing, you will know what is best.
To become sane when we are having a crazy emotional reaction, ask yourself sensible questions.
Do I want peace instead of this?
Do I prefer to be helpful or hurtful?
Do I want to extend love and healing or fear and uncertainty?
Am I willing to have a clear purpose to all my interactions and choices?
Our culture continues to teach us that emotions are real and trustworthy.
Our culture demonstrates to our youth that getting violent and being out of control is expected.
Our family systems show us that divorce and abuse are the standard when people do not agree.
Our media gives us pictures of war, yelling and disrespectful conduct are today’s accepted standard.
Let us stop and examine our own behavior.
We are modeling what we want out world to be.
Is it not time we take full responsibility for our choices in dress, language, work habits and relationships?
We are the ones creating the experiences we are giving the next generation and we can choose better!
I take full responsibility for expressing only love in all my relationships.
I am willing to forgive and heal any place in myself that I am not totally loving.
I am open to be the one to heal the past and choose again for the best I know right now.
I am content to extend peace and give love and wisdom to those who I encounter.
I am willing to be conscious and know my intention and spiritual goals in all my interactions.
Loving you and me in waking up!
Betty Lue
From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.