Wednesday, January 17, 2007

How Did You Learn?

How did you learn to do the laundry?
Is there a better way?
How did you learn to always (or never) write thank you notes?
Is there a better way?

How did you learn to set the table (or even sit down to eat at a table)?
How did you learn to talk with salesmen or service providers?
How did you learn what to believe about doctors and medicine?
How did you learn to talk to the opposite sex?

Is there a better way?

How did you learn to keep house, make a bed, arrange your closet?
How did you learn to dress and polish shoes and do your hair?
How did you learn to eat, exercise, work and rest?
How did you learn to carry an interested conversation without interrupting?

Is there a better way?

How did you learn to get a job, balance your checkbook and save for your future?
How did you learn to be on time, keep your agreements and pay for services rendered?
How did you learn to speak with confidence, make up your mind and trust your decisions?
How did you learn to inspire, discipline and reward yourself?

Is there a better way?

Most of what we do everyday has been unconsciously learned from our original teachers.
Most of us have rarely, if ever, questioned the methods and values of our first teachings.
If we valued admired and respected our teachers, we honor them by doing it their way.
If we devalued and disliked our teachers (usually parents), we rebel and do the opposite.

To grow up and become our own individuated and actualized person, we must choose our own way.
To become whole and strong in our own lives, we must explore and find the best way for ourselves.
To teach our children we must become conscious and respectful of our modeling and be selective.
To model the highest values, we must admit mistakes, forgive ourselves and choose again.

This is the conscious way to live and give our best to everyone, including ourselves.

Let it be,
Betty Lue